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Help please. You see, I accidentally alpha'd but I only know how to beta.
Today in my class we were discussing various interpretations of Schopenhauer's body of work and I, for some reason, got had strangest sense that the will of the universe had granted me a perfect 20 in charisma.
Motivated by this vague intuition, I spontaneously asked a girl for her number. "Sure, I'll give it to you after class," she responded.
And now I have it. ...She's kind of cute, but I don't even know her name. The only thing I really know is that I have a new appreciation for Schopenhauer.
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Hi, /adv/. I'm pretty sure there's no help for this, but I thought I'd ask anyway.
tl;dr: My mother is absolutely psychotic, and I'm the byproduct of 30 years of neglect. Both from my family, and society. I've never had an adult relationship, I've never had a cell phone, I've never had a /real/ job, I've never had a drivers license or car. I could not have them unless I neutered myself by only driving where she wanted me to drive her, handing over every paycheck, and only associating with people she approved of. The threat was always that I would be evicted. I was always terrified of being homeless.
She abused me to the point as a child where manipulation and threats causes me to have times where I'm cognoscente, but incapable of processing new things. It resulted in a severe learning disability and anxiety problems. Compound this with society's tendency to doubledown on trying to smash the square peg through the round hole to get you to understand, and you can sorta see where "I do not understand, please explain!" "UNDERSTAND OR WE PUNISH AND RAISE THE TENSION FURTHER!" can become a massive obstacle to actually getting anywhere.
I really, really need somewhere to go and start putting my destroyed life together. Emotionally and mentally I'm the equivalent of one of those dogs chained to a post and kept from walking around or doing anything without being snarled at. I need a safe, stable place where I can start working a shit minimum wage job and start planning to budget and things. I need some people I can talk to that actually have more answers than "Consult google for the things you don't even know you don't know."
I don't need an insane asylum or a boarding home, I just need a place I can go that won't make my anxiety problem cause the panic attacks and ulceritive colitis flare up all the time.
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I just kind of wish I could meet the right person. I want to have a relationship where things start up very warm and tense and turn into a relationship, and remain strong and passionate enough for us to get settled in and actually feel like committing to it.
In general it just feels hard to meet girls I find attractive enough that also find me attractive, that's all it really comes down to. I don't necessarily think all the girls I meet suck, but it's been a while since I've felt completely turned on by a girl and had that amazing fucking chemistry.
It's really hard to say if I'm doing something that's keeping this from happening or not. On the one hand I have room to improve but then, so does everybody. On the other hand, maybe relationships have been idealized and what I'm chasing doesn't actually exist at all. I don't really believe in The One, but I do believe there is a small batch of girls who are just right for me, a batch of girls with whom no BS relationships are possible. A group that I haven't explored yet, because maybe I'm not ready...or maybe they just don't exist. Who knows.
GF Breaks up, gets back for 1 month, actually is fake relationship and she has a BF
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Okay guys, I need some fucking help now
This summer I met a really nice girl, she was perfect. My height, really cute etc.
I talked to her for like a week or so and then we started flirting and 2 weeks later she suddenly tells me that she loves me, and I realize I share those feelings too.
Things are going great, the relationship is awesome. I can't stop talking to her etc. for 2 months, until August. We grow a bit distant because she breaks her phone and couldn't talk as often as she used to.
Then in the middle of August she breaks up because of an argument between me, her and her best friend and says she doesn't love me anymore. I still talk to her as a friend for about a week or so, but I say that it wasn't what I wanted at all. She starts flirting again and asks me if I can still love her again and we get together. This continues for a month, until yesterday, when she told me she absolutely doesn't feel anything for me anymore.
Today she told me she has had a boyfriend for a bit over a month, and it's her best friend. She had this fake relationship with me because I had said "Relationship or nothing" after the breakup because I needed my time to move on.
She only told me sorry and said she doesn't care about what I think or feel at the moment, because her current relationship is going great. She is the last girl I would expect to do this, because she was always so nice and pure and shit
I have no idea how to take any of this, I just got done staring at the ceiling for 2 hours and now I'm here typing this. How do I move on, forget etc. what am I supposed to do
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Hey /adv/. I'm fat, but I'm easily influenced by media. I used to be more health conscious but it was an uphill battle, and I remember some of my motivation came from watching healthier people do healthy people things in movies and such. Not in the envious "they are attractive and healthy, why can't I be" kind of way, but in a "look at how much fun they are having, and how diverse their friend circle is" kind of way. I guess I felt that way because when you watch movies you feel involved in what the characters are going through.
Blah blah blah, what are some forms of media you could suggest to get me and keep me motivated to be healthier? Not necessarily movies, but maybe youtube channels or music, I dunno. What kind of media gets you motivated?
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How can someone make me feel so worthless?
I met this girl, we hit it off instantly, I fell in love with her faster than I knew what love was. Our relationship was great, we communicated well, sex didn't ruin it, in fact sex made us closer, I made her laugh and I know I made her feel like she was loved and deserved to be loved. She told me I made her a better person and she started working towards her goals she had always been putting off. Somewhere along the line it all seemed to deteriorate, at a fast pace. Like day after day she started changing, and blaming it on me. That I was caring about her too much, and always there. But she didn't mind it before. She'd call me horrible names and threaten me with things just to hurt me. Her parents abused her and always will, they never think she does enough, even though she's going to college to become a doctor. She used to always looking forward to me getting off and getting to be with her, but now it's like she wants to get away from me. We broke up and she told me she didn't even love me and she just used me for sex.
I feel like shit, I need advice on what to do. I would honestly call this girl the love of my life, we have such good chemistry and she's the only girl I could've seen myself marrying. What do I do? I don't know why she'd act this way, could anyone help out? I don't want to give up hope on her or us. Whenever I try to bring up anything now she just says she doesn't care. She doesn't use her feelings, like she closed up.