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How do you stop thinking about self-harm?
Long story short, I've been hospitalized for self-harming and suicide attempts in the past. Last time I was in the psych ward was over 2 years ago. I'm a 23 year old man and lately it's been bothering me a lot because the suicidal thoughts and self-harm ideation has returned. I used to make deep cuts into my arm, bang my head against walls or burn myself with cigarettes, lately I've been thinking of ways I could hurt myself, if there's somewhere I could cut where people wouldn't notice. Something to mutilate me in a way that's damaging or other people can see something's wrong with me. I've mostly gotten through these kinds of thoughts through just constantly remembering the promise I made to myself that I wouldn't get myself sent back to the psych ward. All things considered though, I'm honestly wondering if I should try to put things on hold and get help.
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I can't take this shit anymore.
Everyday at school is being alienated, shunned and hated.
It is the worst form of torture, either complete school and become successful, or don't and become a failure, that's what my teachers essentially say to me when they are confronted by my problems,if you don't like it leave. My mental condition simply makes it almost impossible to relate to other people, the school get fucking surprised when i punch the shit out of my tormentors, i'm on my last strike with my teachers having enough of my meaningless problems, i have no one to talk about my problems to, i'm scared to talk to my Councillors, my non existent friends, my parents are too immersed in their financial problems and work to care about my problems, and my sister is too busy making it to the top of the social ladder, or doing school work and screaming at my mother to care either. My teacher says 80 percent of jobs come from social connections, how the fuck am i going to get a job? My future is thin air, i get none of the material possessions i want to help me escape my shit life.
Kids are vile beasts if your surrounded by them, for 9 years i have had nothing but ignorant unemphatic children unload their hatred onto me because you don't "fit in", why aren't people allowed to just mind their own business and not get flak for not wanting to play their social games. I went into highschool with a fresh start and its gone.
I have nothing going for me.
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Sex advice thread:
Give advice, ask questions, get answers
Do not ask how to get sex, but how to perform
If you want to give your girl an instant orgasm, fuck her missionary, while fucking her hard, suddenly stop, then take the head of your penis, press it on the bottom of the vagina near the entrance, and then slightly rub the outside of that part with your finger
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I am currently living with my parents, having moved back home from living with a boyfriend. I am going nuts. I hate my area, and dislike being stuck where I grew up. I want to move out again. I'm currently also unemployed, as my job was located where I was previously living. I was tired of it anyway, and not sad to see it go.
I've called three different landlords about renting an apartment, and all of them just shut down as soon as I answered honestly about having no job at the moment. I can't really get a job somewhere until I have somewhere to live.
How the fuck? I'm pretty limited in my options due to being poor.
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So I need some help on what to do here.
>been friends with kid for like 15 years
>best friends, basically same tastes and shit
>parents are barely that: dad is drug user (chill dude, just shitty dad) and mom can't say no to friend (he gets away with everything)
>go to college
>shits weird for a bit between us but overall not terrible; still make time to hang out
>he starts senior year by his girlfriend of two years breaking up with him
>friend develops anxiety
>friend develops depression
>friend starts using drugs
>friend drops college plans
>friend is so fucked up now it's difficult to have full conversations with him
>no similarities anymore
I have zero idea what to do here. He lives right next door to my parents house and is known to be super unstable lately (crashing cars, trying to commit suicide, doing meth/heroin). I want him out of my life because he's not the person I know anymore, but I also don't want him to fucking die or anything. I've tried getting him into rehab, I've talked to his parents, I've gone and hung out with him when he's feeling the suicide thoughts, but nothing works. I don't want him to lose his fucking marbles when I tell him I don't want to be friends anymore because he knows how to get into my house.
All I know is I want out of this situation, either with him getting better or us not talking anymore. And he's not getting any better.
Is it a good idea to join the army?
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approximately 6 months ago, I moved out and started studying business sciences in university. I always lacked self-discipline and preferred to be alone at the same time which led to my current situation. Although I find my studies really interesting, I just can't get myself to learn for them and because I don't like being around people I stopped attending lectures after just 2 weeks. My apartment is full of garbage, I wear the same clothes since I moved in and after I used up all my dishes, I just began to eat microwave food only. I left the house maybe 10 hours in total during the last 6 months. Now I know that university is not the right thing for me because I have no self-discipline and can't even bring myself to do the things I like. I would really like to have someone telling me what to do and if I don't do it, get punished for it (like strict parents). That's why I thought about joining the army (german army). I don't want to make decisions or plan my day = think on my own. Even if it's dumb stuff like running in a circle for 2 hours, I would be happy. I would never have to think about what to wear or where the food or my clothes come from.
Do I have the right expectations? Any alternatives?
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I'm emotionally invested in this girl. she's beautiful. face and body, everything.
but there's one major problem:
she says she doesn't like sex.
I'm assuming it's due to her past, abusive boyfriends, where sex was the only way to appease them. therefore, her mind learned to associate sex with bad memories/feelings/general negativity
She said with her previous boyfriend she just broke up with, she only had sex two times in a YEAR
but when she get's in the mood, she goes all in, kinda crazy (her words not mine)
I'm not sure how rare guys like i am are. but I am the type that if he likes a somewhat broken girl, he'll try his damn hardest to try and fix her.
so is there any way to fix this?
> Is there a way to make her like sex?
(pic somewhat related, she's equally attractive as the girl in the pic, minus the scene style and nose piercings)
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Hey /adv/, my mom told me to go to a therapist a long time ago due to anger. I feel like it's necessary for that and perhaps other things, such as time management. I'm doing fairly well, I have a gf, an amazing job on my summer/winter breaks from school. there's a lot of things I dream of doing which I do, but I get distracted easily. The same thing happens when I tackle homework. The instant I hit a hard problem I quit.
I've also been thinking about finding a dominatrix instead. They're basically the same thing right? What do you virgins think? Just kidding guys, I love you. I'm also going to sleep soon.
tldr; give me experiences with Doms and therapists. Contrast and compare