NEET and Shut-in Advice Thread [Version 75]
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Hey /adv/ I have some heavy confusion on my hands about a job I just started. I recently began work at best buy after working at a food joint for seven months. As expected, the environment is completely different (I was hoping for that) but recently I've been assigned to job shadow some employees in the mobile department at work.
Normally I wouldn't panic so much, but yesterday was awful. I tried following one guy for awhile, then they would say something like, "I'm going to computers, you stay here." I would oblige, but 5 minutes later another employee would tell me to follow them, and so on. Eventually, it got to the point where I was the only person in mobile electronics behind the counter whilst customers where pouring in asking me questions about products I wasn't trained (with "elearnings") so I had no idea how to answer them correctly. I ended saying " I'm sorry, I'm still an employee in training, let me fetch you someone who will be of more help." I'd then find the nearest guy and (thankfully) they'd help them. It was like that mostly all day until I left. I did learn a few valuable things.. But nothing substantial. My question is, did I handle this right? Also, how could I prevent this awkwardness from happening again and still stay out of the way while learning? Sorry for the long text, I'm prone to shit like that.
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Ok, so I need advice on possibly approaching a girl I know for paid sex.
The back story is I knew this girl from high school. Cool chick she used to hang out with my group of friends, definite 8/10. When high school ended a lot of my friends stopped talking to her, and she started hanging with the wrong crowd. Basically ended up becoming a bit of a heroin addict, and was already an easy chick to get with beforehand.
So not too long ago I got in touch with a mutual friend of ours, who also ended up becoming a heroin addict after high school. The guy was a good friend of mine, and I loaned him $20 unknowingly at one point when he promised to pay me back. About a month later, the girl in question messages me on Facebook asking what happened between me and my ex-friend whom I lent the $20. She at that point told me he spent the money on heroin, and I obviously wasn't getting my money back. About another week rolls by, and she messages me on Facebook asking if SHE could borrow $20 from me, and straight up told me it was for dope. So this is when the idea started brewing in my head. Basically give her the money she needed, and ask to get some sexual favors in return.
My problem is though is I wouldn't put it past her to accept the offer, but I'm worried about her being offended about me even asking. We also have a lot of shared mutual friends, and since she is around the whole drug scene. Idk if she'd get somebody to beat my ass for even asking (sounds paranoid I know, but I'm just running through the scenarios). And for some reason idk if it really matters, but I was planning on doing it sometime this weekend. This weekend being Valentines Day for some reason doesn't seem like prime time to ask a girl for paid sex. So I'm at a crossroads.
How do I ask about it? Is it a good idea to ask a chick for paid sex whom has connections with people in my friend group/accquiantances? Long winded explanation, but thanks!
interacting with people
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I'm a ridiculously shy, semi-autistic loser with no social skills, low self-esteem, various other physical and mental issues. I'm not a total 'NEET', I do have a job (IT, so my lack of 'people skills' doesn't hurt too much there), but I have no friends, no social life, ...
I'm trying to improve my life a bit. Started exercising and eating a little better, properly washing myself, brushing my teeth, ...
The next big thing I want to work on is learning to interact with people, in such a way that neither me, nor the other person feels bad about it.
I think I know the theoretical basics (though don't hesitate to post/link stuff if you think it might help), so I'm mainly looking at practical tips to :
a) interact in such a way that it is enjoyable for the other person
b) make it easier for me to get an interaction started and/or keep it going (not really, or not just, 'opening lines' or something like that, but mainly/also stuff to convince/manipulate myself into talking with them)
At this point I don't really care about forming friendships/relationships yet, I'ld already be happy just talking for a minute or two without feeling like I'm a total loser, or like I'm bothering the other person too much etc.
I realize that my being hung up about bothering the other person is largely in my head, that most likely they won't care or forget about it soon etc, but just knowing that doesn't really fix the problem automatically...
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I think I may have developed body dysmorphia.
I was recently diagnosed with a hormone problem, quite a bad one, and it rocked my confidence a lot. It completely changed the way I view myself and feel about myself.
When I look in the mirror, no matter the time of the day, I swear I can see my face falling apart. I feel every part of my body separately, like they shouldn't be there. My face looks deformed to me. I honestly think I have the strangest, ugliest face out of anyone I see any day on the street, ever. And I don't even want to look at my body.
What should I do?
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Hi /adv/. It's Valentine's Day and I have a boyfriend. I should be happy, right? At the least, I should be content. It's exciting to have somebody on Valentine's Day. But all I can think about is that my boyfriend is going to be leaving soon. We met over the internet almost two years ago. He was in OK, I'm in CA. It was hard but we made it over a year long distance. He came to visit in September and we thought he would get a job out here. He tried but didn't get any bites so he's going back to OK for work with family. More than 1,000 miles away. He has like, $60 to his name so he can't visit often. I can't visit often (probably not at all) because school and family. My main concern is that I haven't been doing so well mentally lately. Lots of shit going on. Anxiety, panic, depression, OCD, eating disorder. I'm worried that the big change will fuck me over. The only thing I have to look forward to is... nothing. I hate school. I hate where I live. I hate everybody here. I've been thinking and the only things I could do while he's gone is Skype with him, do school, and maybe try to work out daily now. What do I do??
>tl;dr I have nothing to look forward to and suicide has crossed my mind. What do to motivate self?