Cast out of social circle.
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Right so /adv/ recently I have been exiled from my social group. It all started with the arrival of a guy called 'Charles' who was invited into the group by a guy called 'William'. Now I actually got along quite well with 'William', we weren't close friends but still friendly to each other. I've always disliked 'Charles' but slowly he was gaining popularity within the group.
Fast forward to mid summer: An event is planned on facebook with Charles, William and my friend 'Robert' as admins. The event is for a party thing. Anyway long story short, I wasn't invited until the last minute(pity invite). But I still went along and got drunk. While I was drunk I got very depressed and angry. I pissed off a lot of people and apparently said something like 'I hate everyone here'.
Start of semester again. I'm still invited to parties and stuff so I'm still in the social group. However I started giving Charles and William the cold shoulder as I believed they were responsible for the incident during the summer. Slowly and slowly I grow more distant from my friend. I'm excluded from facebook/whatsapp group chats etc.
Fast forward to Christmas. William hosts a party which I'm not invited to. He says he 'thinks I hate him' (due to me not talking to him for months). On new years I say sorry to him, he seems to be completely unaware of the summer incident. Maybe he wasn't responsible? I still don't know but we're currently back on talking terms.
I still hate Charles for many reasons(I won't get into it). I recently found out he is admin of a whatsapp group chat that I'm not in. 3 of my friends also say they hate Charles. I'm beginning to see this whole thing has been caused by Charles. Charles has also corrupted many of my friends, they've changed for the worse although I'm still friendly with them.
What should I do?
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tl;dr: I experience student bursts of panic, sometimes very intense, often in situations that don't seem to warrant it. What can I do to remedy this?
I've experienced this for as long as I can remember, but only recognized it as a discrete and persistent issue in the last few months. I panic when around/even tangentially involved in conflict/sometimes other shit just because. E.g.:
> f friend is angry at m friend because waah waah do what I say
> m has decided not to take f's shit today
> me, m and x friend chilling in living room
> f gets home, asks x something
> m comments
> f is glaring at m, livid
> my mind: "holy shit lol m is REALLY this mad wat? How silly."
> so comfortable I'm on the verge of saying this out loud
> next moment: short breath, rapid heartbeat, tightness in throat/chest, jittery, can barely concentrate on anything
> completely uninvolved in this conflict
This was maybe 30 minutes ago, and I'm still feeling my heartbeat in my jaw. These are people I've known for years, intimately; there is no room for social awkwardness.
It's like this for actual emotional arguments, academic debates, being near angry strangers, and other events that all seem insignificant. I recently realized, it also affects me when playing competitive videogames and (maybe most oddly) hearing people have sex in another room.
When it's the worst--i.e. when I'm actually involved in an angry argument--it completely disrupts my thinking, I get so choked up I can't consistently speak without heavy breaths every few words, and I become so tense that I experience waves of physical pain.
It's also inconsistent. Sometimes I argue with a friend and it's just plain anger and lingering frustration and that's it, plus I can still think and form sentences. Sometimes I see an enraged stranger yelling into a cellphone and I just chuckle and move on with life.
What is this and what can I do? (I don't have access to the obvious option of counseling right now, but I'm working on it.)
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I grew up with a bunch of punks from ages 10 to age 18, we caused a lot of trouble, and most of it was for no reason. Theft, vandalism, all kinds of stupid shit just for the fun of it. I wasn't really directly responsible for anything but I have been feeling really remorseful recently.
I'm a completely different person now and much wiser, and I want to make it right, but I see no way to payback for the trouble we caused. I don't want to for religious reasons, I just genuinely feel bad about it all.
What should I do?
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> Have no trouble making guy friends(I'm a male)
> Have a wide range of hobbies, I play guitar, skate, reading, animation, lifting, taking care of myself, etc
> Think I'm an interesting person
> Every female I meet acts uninterested in me
I'm 20 and never had a girlfriend while most of my friends have had them and some are in serious relationships now. Maybe I'm not meeting enough girls or the right ones, but this feel is starting to make me depressed deep down inside.
How important is having a GF/experience when your in your 20's? One of my biggest fears is a girl dropping me when she learns I have no experience.
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My wife is pregnant. She doesn't want to breastfeed, but I want our child to be breastfed.
She feels it will be inconvenient and, honestly, weird to have someone sucking on her tits several times per day.
I feel that weirdness is a small price to pay for the most healthy and complete option available.
I can't force my wife to breastfeed, breastmilk generally isn't for sale (and what do you really know about women that flog their bodily juices online?), and I obviously can't breastfeed a baby myself. What do?
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So I have been fucking this girl casually over the past few months with no protection, yeah stupid me, and then last weekend I accidentally nutted a little in her. I never have prior.
Calls 5 days later saying she's pregnant. She's also been fucking a guy on the side says they always used condoms and he has a low sperm count.
I can feel the bull shit but idk, getting a test tomorrow with her in person since she's being dodgy about sending me the current one.
She's said no to abortion and says she'll graduate then raise it and whose ever it is will just pay support. Sounds fishy.
I just have so many bullshit alarms going off. Timings don't add up.
I'm white, some what ok economically but live with parents she's adopted to white parents but mexicanish-asianish so I feel like I'm being set-up idk.
Just really freaking out now.
TL;DR: Might be father, doubt it help please freaking out
GF MAY be 3 weeks pregnant
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Had sex twice, unprotected using the pull out method, made sure I pulled out extra early, and cleaned my dick good after each round.
Her period normally comes every 21 days, and that was yesterday, so I'm shitting my self.
To poor to have an abortion legally, so how can i force a miss carriage or an Abortion?