10 more posts in this thread. [Missing image file: ]
I'm at my wits end with this fucking girl. I really am. I can't take it anymore.
I've been friends with this girl for almost a year now, and we got pretty close. She always used to ask for me, where I was, what I was doing etc. Now it's the other way around. Whenever she's coming around my neighborhood, she never tells me, and I always find out from my friends that she was here. Whenever I ask her to hang out, she's been giving me excuses.
Now, she always used to stay over, and I was cool with that. I always offered the bed, but she insisted on the couch. Whatever.
About two weeks ago somehow, someway we ended up spooning in my bed. Then spooning led to other cuddle positions, and me basically feeling her up everywhere.
>UNDER HER CLOTHES
I basically skipped kissing and went straight to foreplay.
Here's the problem though, I didn't kiss or fuck her. Why? Because she's confusing as fuck. She says she's a "lesbian" but said she considered having a relationship with me. She told me we would be perfect together, and that nothing would ever go wrong, but I'm "not her type." Then after she says all that, we remain friends.
But then I decided to block her because she bailed on me and lied to our friend saying I never invited her. Next thing you know, she's looking for me and ends up staying two nights in a row.
My hands were basically everywhere but I never went all the way. Fingers locked, caressing each other, tickling, everything. She fell asleep on my chest and told me that was the best sleep shes ever had. She also told me I was the first man she'd ever been in bed with for about 6 years.
All of my friends, and everyone online say she likes me, but I'm still not sure. Do "friends" sleep over and cuddle two nights in a row? We almost kissed at one point, but that never happened, and she said she would have rejected me regardless. Everyone thinks she doesn't know what she wants, and it's bothering the fuck out of me.
What do I do?
6 more posts in this thread. [Missing image file: ]
So, i have this girl i talk with over the internet every once in a while. Having de3veloped a slight crush for each other, a few days ago, she said that she always turned to me when she has any problem in her life and needs to talk to someone, she always talks to me. She said she wanted to meet up and she liked me a lot and was even interested in a possible relationship. Few days later she completly changed her mind because she ''doesnt want to hurt'' me and that we shouldnt talk anymore. Her life is slightly problematic and she had an abusive boyfriend in the past. I told her i would always be there to talk if she needed and i would not contact her unless she contacted me first. But now, i feel like shit and all i want is to ask if shes alright, but i promised i wouldnt, im conflicted and kinda heartbroken. I know women are complicated and all, but if a girl in the same situation could give me some advice, i would apretiate it. (We are both 24 years old btw).
9 more posts in this thread. [Missing image file: ]
I'm a 24 girl and I have never been on a relationship before. Hell, I'm that kind of person that feels embarrassed to even hold eye contact and things like that.
After many years wishing I had a bf/gf my best (male) friend made a shocking "truth is-- I've always liked you!" confession.
So here I was, thinking 'ah yes, my time has finally come' when the other day my best (female) friend - whom I feel really close to - expressed that her feelings towards me could be romantic.
I confess that whenever my male friend said things like how I was the most important person in his life even though we don't even live in the same state (just chat online), I just felt awkward in a "wow I'm sorry but I don't really feel the same" kind of way, and when my female friend explained her feelings I was like "yes, yesss, me too!", so... this is where I stand now. On one hand I fear I don't reciprocate my male friend's feelings but he's seriously the sweetest person (aaand having a boyfriend would put an end to my family constantly nagging me about dying alone, etc).
On the other hand, my female friend and I have this kind of... kindred spirit thing going on (aaand she lives in the same state that I do) but I'm sure I'd feel anxious about coming out.
So yeah, thanks for reading this bullshit all this far. I just can't stop laughing at the irony of the universe. Can't believe I'm on some kind of love triangle after years of being ronery (wow it's just like one of my japanese animus).
How does that make me sound? What would you do in a situation like this? I seriously think I'll end up turning both down.
The presence of my friend is being taken away from me...
0 more posts in this thread. [Missing image file: ]
This is a long story, but I need serious advice.
So here is what happens:
(We are all 18yo)
I have a best female friend, and also the only female friend I have. Let's call her Carly. We are in a pre-college thing. We enjoyed the company of each other during a shirt vacation. Now... Carly and one of those guys (let's call him Jess) are in the same class for 4 hours, and I can't make friends in my own class. He also takes the same bus as her because they live nearby. Also, they study via Skype when they can. Then, the other guy (let's call him John) started coming to our building just to convince her of being his girlfriend. John does not only stays there, he also once wanted to get rid of me asking me to do this and that which required me to leave them alone. John also takes her to places in order to talk to her and takes her home in bus.
Jess and John are spending too much time with Carly. Jess during classes, after classes with me too, goes home with her, they study through Skype. John 3 times a week showed up and took her away from me and Jess. John and Jess are friends... but clearly they have 0 interest in being my friends, they are just there for her. Carly knows about the feelings they have for her, and she considers me a friend who she can talk to and trust. But... they are taking away my territory in her friendships list.
Please help me, what can I do about this? I feel so jealous when she says how good she spent with Jess, and I hate when John just takes her away... (no, I don't have feelings for Carly, and I never will)
2 more posts in this thread. [Missing image file: ]
I am a bipolar transgirl who's been trying to get into the dating scene, and every time I meet a guy who really likes me for me, they always drop me like a hot rock as soon as I tell them about the bipolar part, if not the trans. Even if they're ok with me being trans, once they find out I'm bipolar, it's over.
I've been 100% mentally stable for 5 years now. I've never been violent, never had any intentions to hurt anyone. I take my medication religiously and have no desire to come off of it. I realize that everyone has a right to decide who they want to date, and if they're not ok with my issues I can respect that, but I'm just so lonely. All I want to do is find someone to love, get married, adopt some kids, and live a happy, normal life.
Should I just give up trying to find someone now or is there any hope for me?
11 more posts in this thread. [Missing image file: ]
I need your advice on this. I'm on the verge of killing myself, and no one has been able to help me so far. It's a long story, please bear with me.
It started more than a year ago, March 2014. 22 years old, male. For several reasons, I went into depression. I wanted to succeed in college, and overworked myself, namely to get a position as a professor (no idea if it's named assistant, professor or teacher in english colleges; it was the position to teach classes in college) To succeed, I had no time for family and friends, and began shunning them, everyone but one person, my best friend (female, 2 years younger than me, is on the same college) for about 7-8 years. She understood what I had to do to achieve my goals, and always stood by me.
Summer came. I got the teaching job, for next class year (which would start september 2014). Summer was perfection. I came back home, my best friend revealed her feelings for me, and we started dating. No problems whatsoever.
Then, a new college year started. Back with it came the realization that I had shunned everyone before, and that I was completely alone. I had no one to talk to, except my best friend. Of course, she was in a different year, had her things to do. Things started going badly. My depression "came back", if I can call it that. She tried her best to make me see the positive things in life, but I would not listen. I started pushing her away as well. But she fought. She fought so fucking hard for me and for us. She made herself miserable, so we could be miserable together. Whereas I would want to make her miserable, so I could be happy that I was not alone. That was a fundamental mistake in all of this.
Was I in the wrong for breaking up with her, or not?
5 more posts in this thread. [Missing image file: ]
For the past two days I've been wondering if maybe I was in the wrong for breaking up with my girlfriend. For the past two months I had been feeling insecure, needy, jealous, etc. and I have to wonder if I was simply being paranoid or if she really was the cause of it. At first she was available all of the time, very romantic, etc. but after about the first few weeks she suddenly no time, whether it was friends, being tired, or some other obligation. The romance dropped like a ton of bricks, her interest level seemed to have dropped.
It was weird because at first she seemed like she was crazy about me, even going as far as talking about waiting for me to propose to her, talking about having children together, getting married, all of that stuff. I was initially hesitant, saying that perhaps we need to take it slow, but eventually I took it from the top and was the one talking about this stuff way more than her. She once was willing to wake up in the middle of the night just to talk to me, every time I got on Skype she was front and center. So, in a way it almost became expected. After she changed, it became distressing and I was always left wondering what that was about.
Since then I had to practically beg her to be more romantic, and for more of her time. She no longer initiated contact, it was mostly me. She became chronically late for dates, and flaky. Granted, I did give her a hard time a few moments when she was late or flaky, so I don't know if maybe it was my being harsh that lead to a drop in interest level. Anyway, it was just weird to see this dramatic change in her personality and habits.
On weekends and holidays she was totally booked. Trying to get her to spare a single Saturday was like asking her to pull teeth.
7 more posts in this thread. [Missing image file: ]
My girlfriend that I've been together with for 7 months broke up with me yesterday.
But I'm still incredible confused if she just wants a break from me, or actually want an end to our relationship.
For the longest time our relationship has been very stable up until this point, so this breakup came to me as a shock. But her reasoning for not wanting to be together with me is pretty vague.
She told me that "I don't want to be in such a serious relationship right now." but that is pretty much it.
She explicitly stated that she still want to be my friend if it's possible, and that I was not at fault for breaking up. I know that she can be pretty impulsive by her actions most of the time too, so I'm not entirely sure how to handle this situation.
I'm just very disoriented by this, so some advice would be helpful.
0 more posts in this thread. [Missing image file: ]
How do I deal with an alcoholic father?
I honestly wish it was as easy as moving out, but there's still my mom.
My dad is a little Bitch. All he ever does is complain, drink, waste water and electricity, and drink more.
Every fucking night I've got to go to his room and turn off the tv and clean up his beer cans.
And my mom doesn't do anything because she one of those born again Christian, traditional Chinese moms. "He's your dad, blah blah blah, you can't say that because he's your son. This is just a test from God"
He's all fucking bark and no bite. My mom says just because he doesn't hit us, it's okay, there's worse out there. Everything that comes out of his mouth is fucking toxic.
Fuck, I'd rather hit him. Either gives me a good reason to hit back and call the cops.
I'm constantly being pushed over the edge. It takes one bad day to make a man psycho and off killing everyone, and I'm afraid I'm almost there.