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Alright, so I've got a problem. Here's the scenario...
>dating girl for three years
>go spend Halloween with friends, leaving gf at home to do her own thing. She didn't really want me to go, but this get together had been planned since May
>while out, get very, very drunk
>make out with/foreplay with other girl, turned into a threesome with a friend. Did not have sex
>still drunk in the morning
>realize what I did
>realize how shitty that was
>realized recently that I might want to marry my gf and do all the cheesy stuff
>can't not tell her about this, so we discuss. Tell her we made out and that's really it, but she knows I got really drunk and cheated on her
>wildly depressed now
Firstly, inb4 I'm scum. I know that cheating is not a great thing to do, and I feel shitty enough about that already. Really not a good place to be. She decided she would stay with me, but now I feel like I can't reach out to her. I hate that I did this, and I barely even remember doing it, just snippets like from a bad dream. What should I do? Reach out? Cut my/our losses, let her not think about that, and break it off? Try to keep it going even though it'll never be the same?
Please help. Feeling pretty lost right now.
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I have a lot of friends who are like Harry.
I know he likes me, and I've made it very clear to him that I am only interested in a friendship with him. He agrees to stay "just friends", but speaks to me like this.
They send me flowers and letters, and ask to hang out one on one "just as friends".
The thing is, this makes me uncomfortable. They're acting like we're in a relationship, but that's expressly what I wanted to avoid.
I've mentioned several times that the way he speaks to me is over-affectionate and makes me feel uncomfortable, but at this point I've already corrected him so many times that It's easier just to thank him and move on.
I can't "ghost" these friends and just put space between us because then they call asking if I'm mad at them, and wondering why we can't just be friends.
TLDR: nice boys who want to be my friend keep taking it too far and make me uncomfortable. Is there a way for me to stop the lovey dovey stuff without losing them as friends/being a total bitch.
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alright, this is something that's been bugging me for a while. My ex and I broke up a few months ago. She wasn't right for me, had no real drive or ambition, and couldn't handle a challenge. But there were obviously things I loved about her. I could be spontaneous with her. We were "silly" together, as much as I hate to use that word, it is the only one that adequately describes it. I loved being silly and stupid with someone. I'm generally a pretty serious person so it felt great to have someone to unwind with.
Now I'm afraid I'm never gonna find someone I can have fun with and yet who is actually going somewhere in life. Like the two are mutually exclusive. I need both in a partner and I feel like I'm doomed to never find it. Am I fucked?
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I'm in a really shitty position right now. I want to get help, but getting help would get me in trouble . I asked my therapist what he thinks of pedophiles, and he said he thinks they are subhuman and should all be reported. Yes I know , I could get another professional , but I really like him and what I am gonna do when I get a new one, awkwardly segway into " hey , kinda off topic but what do you think of pedophiles? " . Also I'm kind of young
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Well, I didn't know whether or not to post this here or in lgbt, but I guess this works better since it's really advice that I'm looking for. As a little background, I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 2 years. We're polyamorous, but haven't really found any girls we think would fit into our relationship well, so not a lot of people know. Anyways, here recently I've been talking to a girl and I really, really like her. She's so sweet and funny, and I've never met anyone I can relate to this well. We text all the time which is rare for me since I'm usually pretty asocial, but I just seriously love talking to her that much. My only issue is that I have no idea if she's bi or not. Sometimes it seems like she's flirting with me but most girls are like that with their female friends, so I don't really know how to interpret that. Also, I don't think she knows that my bf and I are polyamorous, so she might just be trying to stay subtle about it because she doesn't want to seem rude. I want to bring up the fact that I'm bi and I kind of have feelings for her, but I don't want to make things awkward and fuck up the friendship we have because I really care about her as a friend too. I know it's a pretty complicated situation, but there's got to be a way that won't make anyone feel uncomfortable.
How do I know if a girl likes girls aside from blatantly asking,
And how do I bring up the context of my relationship without making it too obvious that I'd like her to be a part of it?
Again, sorry for the complicated situation, but any advice would be greatly appreciated.