Girlfriend tells me her past
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Hi, /adv/. Yesterday my girlfriend told me everything (I guess) from her past that she hid from me.
I wanna see what you think.
I'm 19 years old and she's 18. We are (were?) in a relationship for almost 9 months, but in a long distance relationship (it takes about 2 hours for us to meet). She's very cute, average beauty, and has a nice body, though nothing really special. My friends even seem to find her more attractive than I do.
I lost my virginity with her and she told me that she had lost her virginity with another guy, and also told me that she had sex with 4 guys in total (she was practically used as a object for sex), but only after the start of the relationship. On a side note, she lost her virginity at the age of 14.
I must tell that she's really open-minded when it comes to sex, what is really good; she's up to a lot of things. She also used to mutilate her arms and legs, but stopped when we meet, and tried to get rid of the scares when I told her to. Her school grades sucked, but she started to study a lot, for real, just to make me proud of her and have a better future with me; now she's finally doing well. She's always caring about me, gives me a lot of love, does what I want, etc.
Yesterday she left a message on Skype telling everything, saying that she had sex with another 4 guys (a total of 8, with whom she had sex mostly when she was 14- 15 years old), addressing that she regrets it, adressing that she loves me and don't want to lose me. But there is more to it, she had sex with the other guys even in public places and sent a lot of nudes of her to another guys online before we meet. So yeah, she's a slut.
The message also stated that she would disappear for 5 days so that I can think better about this.
Should I break up with her or ignore that she fooled me for almost 9 months and was a slut?
Another thing that strikes me is thinking that if this relationship works, I never will know what is like to be with other girls while she was a slut.
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I'm thinking about asking my psych if I can switch from adderall xr to vyvanse. Adderall xr:
>doesn't last long enough- barely any loner than the ir
>gives me really bad anxiety and insomnia once it wears off
>has a very steep comedown- like no transition from happy and focused to zombie
Anyone have experience with these issues and switched to vyvanse, or has experience switching from one to another? I'm aware that the effects will not be consistent for everyone, but from my experience with Ritalin and adderall there's usually some pretty generalizable characteristics. If it helps I have the inattentive type of ADHD rather than the hyperactive kind- Ritalin was no help to me, made me focus for maybe I shit you not, 20 minutes, but then it made all my ADHD symptoms worse. I've heard that one is better for those with the hyperactive characteristics as it "calms them down" somehow. I'm also pretty seasoned in mechanisms of action being a psychiatry/psychology student so if you wanna go science on my ass feel free. I looked over some comparative studies but I would like some primary sources and personal experience. Thanks guys!
ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything
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Avoid asking these common questions:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
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>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Think positive, and get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
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>Where do I meet girls/guys?
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>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
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>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Would you date a virgin?
As long as they aren't insecure about it. Complexes are a total turn-off.
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>That one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships
No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking
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so my gf dumped me a week ago because i'm too boring for her
long story short:
>be in a 2 year old relationship with her
>she studies 20 miles away
>I'm 5 years older
>I don't have many friends etc, kind of a loner
>she gradually became less and less interested in seeing me at my place on the week ends, even though it's much better than hers
>started to see each others more and more at her parent's on the week-ends (like that's helping)
>she started to go more and more out with friends from university
>she never introduced me to her friends or invited me
>she complained that I'm not fun when we are both alone together, we don't laugh, we are not joyful
>she was realizing that she was having much more fun with her friends than she did alone with me
How do I rebound from this?
I don't know if I should try to get her back or not... I mean I have a decent job / flat and hobbies, it's just that I'm lonely as fuck
I don't understand how we could have been in a perfect relationship for the first year where it was total bliss and she was happy to spend tons of time only with me, to her just being impressed by the fact that college parties are fun and that going out in bars with friends to get drunk is more fun than spending time with your bf
like, is it worth fucking a good relationship over this?
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I'm a 22 y/o kv and I've finally decided to fix that.
I have plenty of female friends and can hold a good conversation with them but no-one has ever thought of me in a sexual way.
I get that people judge on appearances and I'm a 4/10 by internet standards, I live in the UK though so I guess I'm at an advantage there. What I'm trying to do is look for ways to change how I speak, what to say, and some aspects of my appearance.
I plan to get going with tinder since it's the only way I can think of to meet girls, I've got a couple of decent pictures I can use for it. My question is how do I make a good first impression, and how do I talk with people in a sexual way without spilling my spaghetti?
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It fucking happened to me. She cheated on me, with one of my closest friends. What the fuck.
I did everything for her. I took her in when she was kicked out by her parents, I shared my appartment with her, I got her a job at the local café, I bought her a car for our 4th year anniversary, I helped her pay loads of debt.. Why did she do this to me...? I wanted to give her everything she wanted in life, I never wanted her to feel alone or left out, we traveled alot, Norway to see the northern lights, Denmark, Germany, Italy... on my expense.
I thought we had it good, I thought I had my life in order. I wanted to believe I had finally found my place in life.
I found out 5 hours ago and she keeps calling me, and leaving voice messages and texting, saying "im so sorry, i was confused, please forgive me"
Im crying my eyes out here, why did this happen to me?
All she said was "He makes me feel special"
What the fuck is that supposed to mean? I fucking did everything for her...
What should I do?
Need help finding a song
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I heard this song in a casino, but i can't find it.
It sounded like an old song from 70/80/90
It's a half-fast paced song, not like neil young
It had the word tonight in it, couple of times after each other.
''Í wanna.. tonight toonight toonight i wanna .... toonight toonight''
On the ''....'' maybe it's: dancing, drinking, driving. Not sure if i'm close witht hat one.
Between the couplets, there was a weird kind of instrument to be heard playing. Maybe its a piano, with weird tones
(click/hmm = the word i dont know)
For a long time i tought the word was sing, but that could be wrong