ITT: Ask the Opposite Gender Anything
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Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered
Keep your questions short and sweet for more answers.
And please no derailing arguments.
Avoid asking these common questions:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
>Would you date a virgin?
Some do, some don't. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Think positive, and get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever. It takes hard work, time, and effort.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out. This is something we cannot explain to you. In video game terms, you are lvl 1 social skills and the "Interpret signs" ability requires level 10 to unlock. Get more experience.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
Alternative answer: we don't fucking know.
>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>That one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships
No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking.
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>started living alone
>friendships started falling apart, 1/2 the time due to my actions on accident, only like 4 trustworthy friends now
>feeling depressed for the past 3 weeks, can't even conceal it at work
>social skills failing hard due to lack of social interaction, and shitty video games
>every day becomes a regular cycle of school/work -> games -> fap -> drink -> sleep -> repeat
>body image and diet going to shit, slowly
>hobbies becoming a chore to do, strangely
>have no idea what to do about it, want to break the cycle somehow
Just turned 21 and already feel like alcohol is going to be a problem for me. Like, I know to just stop, and fundamentally I feel I shouldn't rely on it, but it's alluring, maybe because it's my first time and it'll die out eventually though.
It's affecting my attitude to the point where I'm feeling really negative and bothered of others, even family, but I know I shouldn't be like that. Never felt so whiny or defeated before, it's bizarre, but this isolation is driving me crazy
I guess the question is, what are some things I can do to meet others and learn to connect with them deeply? That, or steps to start combatting these depressing feelings?
How to start a conversation?
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So I've known this girl for some time,we always say 'hello' when we see each other,we go to the same school.
Im quite good loking,not poor,know how to keep a conversation but my only and biggest problem is how to start up a coversation and not look like a creep.
Any advice on starting up a conversation?;'cus once I start talking to someone Im good,just need to overcome that initial few sentences.
Any ideas how to overcome this problem?
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Alright, so I'm graduating in May with CS degree, 3.4 gpa, from run of the mill state uni. My first job offer was for 40k, but according to google, entry level gets ~61k average. Given that this could easily vary based on area, I double checked salary.com for my area, which was only a few thou off with salary for software developer 1 around 59k average (bottoming out at 46k for the lowest 10%). Now, I'm no hotshot, otherwise I'd know I'd be worth average at least. That being said, while 40k is much more than I've ever made in my life, they are clearly lowballing me as a fresh grad.
Of course, this is my first offer, and I know my degree is in demand, but I can't help but like the company and the experience I know I'd get there (also it's hard to wrap my head around refusing the first, highest amount of money I've ever been offered in my life). I’ve never done this kind of thing before. My friend (who has more experience and a higher GPA than I do) told me I shouldn’t even give them the time of day with so low an offer—but of course he is allowed to be so demanding, given he’s a better candidate. My mother, on the other hand, isn't used to such high numbers on entry, and thinks I should take it without negotiation!
Either way, it's my first real offer and I've never negotiated a salary before, let alone +10k or more of salary. I have to give them my answer on Monday. What should I do?
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I drink lots of water and cola every day. Cola comes cheap and are the equivalent of a cigarette- meaning it staves off hunger.
I'm hungry. A lot. Underweight, we don't get much food. The cola is amazingly cheap (~40 cents for 2 litres that lasts 1-2 days)
Diet mainly consists of carbs. Bread, rice, spaghetti. Our family is piss poor.
I am not gaining weight either. We have generally one meal a day, and the rest I occasionally just go down to make toast. We do occasionally include other things (meat, veg) in the meals. But most of the time it's usually nothing besides rice + salt.
Just HOW bad is this diet. It's been like this for a good year or two now. I want to know any potential side effects this may have on my psychologically so I can fucking convince myself to stop.
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I'm 23 f, I broke with my boyfriend since a year and a half ago... I'm not that sociable so I'm still single but five months ago I met a boy through Tinder and had casual sex with him (I never did that in my entire life). Till there that's ok because we never talked again and then deleted the app.
A month ago I installed Tinder again and met a boy, we talked a bit the first day, we exchanged numbers but then I noticed he was acting a bit weird (asking about my family, if I wasn't online he insisted a lot like "hi!, are u there? hello? answer!" etc), so the third day I stopped talking and then deleted him.
He began to sending me A LOT of sms asking about me, so I answered "hey my phone is broken and I'm having some troubles in my family so please stop doing that cause I don't want anything by now" or something like that and then delete/block him.
Two weeks passed and eventually I received a sms from him asking about me. Didn't answer. Today, I received a new message from a new number that said "hi, how are you? do you know who am I?" and then STARTED CALLING ME OVER AND OVER.
I get scared and blocked my phone. He doesn't have my facebook, he doesnt' know even my real name, he just have a couple of pics without my face (we exchanged pics) and just one with my face but without showing anything else.
>for the tl,dr I talked with a boy for two days a month ago, started to act weird and said bye-bye. Then he started to stalking me through messages and now creppy messages with phone calls
Sorry for the long text but I need help, I'm nervous about this and scared. Should I? What can I do?