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Hey /adv/ let me explain a little bit about myself. I'm a half white half black guy (Mulatto) whose having some troubles with my skin tone. I've lived in an all white community my whole life, and was only cared for by my white mother's family. I act white more than anything. Recently I've been getting self - conscious about my skin tone and wither or not people will like me, romantically and as a friend. Also I'm big into anime, so liking a media that is mainly consisted of pale skin characters creates even more conflict about my color you can see. I constantly check my chest to see how "dark" I am compared to other dark skinned- characters, and people in my real life. I'm afraid that nobody will see me in a good light because of my skin. I also can't connect to other black people because most of the time they berate me for being half white. I don't know what to identify as, and I can't go about my day without constantly being worried about my skin complexion, or watching my shows without feeling bad. Think of it as OCD without a physical compulsion, just an obsession. I want to be able to feel comfortable about my skin tone, and enjoy my shows again. Any advice?
ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything
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Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered
Keep your questions short and sweet for more answers.
And please no derailing arguments.
Avoid asking these common questions:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
>Would you date a virgin?
Some do, some don't. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Think positive, and get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever. It takes hard work, time, and effort.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out. This is something that cannot be explained. You either have learned to intuit this or you have not. If you have not, the only way to learn is experience--there are no shortcuts. So it comes back to: Just ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
Alternative answer: we don't fucking know.
>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>Brandon, that one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships and fart guy
Do U ever feel sorry for urself.
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I've had a lot of bad shit happen to me in life. I've had abusive parents, abusive bf, bullied in school for being skinny, flat chested, having ears that stick out. I ended up getting breast implants and ended up with two bad scars on my chest. Three years later, the scars are still there.
I've developed terrible health problems over the years. Constant ingrown hairs. Severe dry eyes. My eyes are usually bloodshot. Acid reflux. Every time I eat, I cough up and choke on phlegm. Pretty embarassing to choke on phlegm at work, especially. Acid reflux meds never worked. I had to go many months without being able to afford laser hair removal because I was broke every now and then. I spent a lot of time digging at ingrown hairs with needles and being in a lot of bloody pain (literally) and generally uncomfortable. The worst was dealing with it at work, along with having dry eyes.
My life just sucks. If it weren't for my health issues, it would be a little better, i would be a lot less miserable. Who knew having health problems that aren't as "bad as cancer" could still make life so damn miserable.
Do most people have shitty lives? i understand there are people who are homeless and starving. But do most people have crappy lives like me? Or am I just l extremely unfortunate.
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Why does /adv/ believe in the friendzone all of a sudden?
About a year or two ago, you would see posts claiming that the FZ didn't exist, and you would be called out for complaining about somebody FZing you. But now, just about any relationship advice on this board is going to be greeted with "you're going to get FZ'd if XYZ," or that the person has already been FZ'd by the object of their affection (regardless if there's sufficient information to warrant that conclusion).
And while we're on the subject, /adv/ is seemingly more misogynistic these days. Dubya-tee-eff, mates?