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I might be able to sleep with a girl this Saturday.
Actual sleep, not anything else. Just sleep with a girl in a bed.
Aight, so I'm going with some friends out of town this weekend. Since there aren't many beds and all, everyone pairs so we usually sleep 2 in a bed. We're friends, nothing unusual, I've slept with guys and girls alike, no problem.
Well now this weekend there's this girl, friend of friend kinda situation. Since we're going to split in pairs to sleep, (couples obviously together) there's a high chance I'll get paired to sleep with this chick.
She kinda knows me (I suspect my friend told her about us / me at least in part), I don't know her at all. I suppose she's single, otherwise no reason to come alone in a group she's never been before, over a weekend, out of town. She's cute (seen random pics) and I suppose she's smart since she works in IT apparently.
Well, my question is, if, god's will, I have a chance with this girl, we click well, chemistry and shit, and we pair to sleep in the same bed, how do I initiate cuddling?
We're good folk, me and my buddies are not the kind of people to slut around, do drugs and shit. We have a good time and all that. I don't wanna fuck this girl senseless and dump her. If there's a chance there for me, I kinda want to just cuddle around and stuff (if she wanted sex so suddenly, it's not the type of girl for me anyway)
Whatever, how the fuck do I initiate cuddling in case all goes well?
Do I just turn around and hug her? Tickle her? What do without being a creep with my hands all over he body and shit?
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Hello, this is my first time on /adv/. I am a twenty year old male who is doing very well academically within a highly valued business study. I am also setting up my own business at the same time and moved put of the house when I was just 18 to another part of the country. However, when I spent a weekend (or, in rare ocassions, a week) at the elderly home, my father is far from being a friendly figure to me.
It is the little things. Usually I try to do some nice things, like getting food for the bbq or taking the pillows down form the attic for the outside furniture because the winter has ended or I help to do other chores and things. Generally, things that are nice and arent expected of me.
However, instead of a thank you, I always get criticised or followed up with some command. "Did you close the doors correctly" "did you put the empty bottles in the glass container" "well took you long enough to help". Always spoken in mildly annoyed tone. Never a thank you.
But when my fat, ocd plagued, anti social bitch of a sister (who has openly stated to leech of my parents till she is at least 23 and has no idea what to do for education after high school) does something, its all praise and halleluja.
For example: I had made the table ready for dinner and after dinner my father said I had to help putting everything in the dishwasher. I stated that maybe my sister could help, as the only thing she had done is come down to eat. "No I am asking you anon, not your sister" a fight ensued and even mother backed me up (she usually just keeps quiet in fights between me and my father).
This might all seem petty to you, but this is a general theme in my life. And these little things add up to a lot, as I feel my father does not like me at all and has no respect for me. What can I do guy? I already tried talking to him but he either starts gas lighting or he trivializes the issue. Like I am some kind of moron, while I am probably the smartest guy in the family. Any other tips?
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I think my boyfriend might be a serial killer. We started dating at the start of last semester because he's a math whiz and I kept asking him for advice, and we ended up spending so much time together I got to find out he's not a very snarky, non-apologetic personality without the annoying bravado attached to it. I made a move to ask him out, and he seemed genuinely shocked. He even asked, "Do you think this is a good idea?" At the time I thought it was some kind of joke, but now I'm worried.
See, he doesn't DO anything. That is, if I ask him to take me to an art show, or a cooking class or whatever, he'll go willingly, and he always excels at whatever activity I take him to, from reciting poetry to wall climbing. But he never asks me if I want to do something. He never seems to have any plans, he doesn't hold any interests, he just seems to be engaged whenever you interact with him, like he's a human Furby.
He doesn't want to have sex, which I find highly disturbing. I "walked" in on him in the bathroom to try and get things started, and he is well-equipped downstairs, plus I've seen him get hard-ons before so I know it has nothing to do with his male sexuality. I have considered he's not attracted to me, personally, but he doesn't even stare at other girls that I KNOW are hot. It's like he's unaware of other people around him, or he doesn't care.
I asked him once what his goal in life is, and he said he has none. And yet for some reason he still goes to school, he still goes to the gym, he takes care of his home so very meticulously, and yet he tells me he doesn't care.
Is there a handbook for this kind of behavior? I can't for the life of me understand how he operates, and I'm growing more and more worried as time passes.
ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything
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Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered
Keep your questions short and sweet for more answers.
And please no derailing arguments.
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
>Would you date a virgin?
Some do, some don't. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Think positive, and get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever. It takes hard work, time, and effort.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out. This is something that cannot be explained. You either have learned to intuit this or you have not. If you have not, the only way to learn is experience--there are no shortcuts. So it comes back to: Just ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
Alternative answer: we don't fucking know.
>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>Brandon, that one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships and fart guy
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Ok so I'm 19, and my parents got divorced at a very young age so I basically only had a dad once a week for my entire life, until I was 16 and he moved away completely. I feel like because of this, and partly me ofc, I'm completely unable to be intimate with women. It's SO hard because all of my friends will be talking about girls they've fucked, and I just sit quietly and listen and pretend to relate. I'm sick of it. I have been on 2 dates my entire life, both of them ending with me taking them home, them saying they had fun, and then quickly drifting apart because I didn't know the next move to take. It's been 1 month since the last one and we went from talking every day to literally not at all. I would like to retry because I thought she was really great.
Anyways, tldr, to the point: how can I save this and take this girl out again to where she knows I'm actually interested in her and not just a friend? What signs do I need to look for to know if we're gonna kiss, hold hands, fuck, if she's even interested? What are some other essential relationship things I never learned from my dad? I've literally grown up on movie romance and I think it fucked me up. Pic somewhat related, what usually comes to my mind when we stop talking and she doesn't message first
Girlfriend at the Gym
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So a few months ago, my girlfriend started going to the gym. I was a bit bothered by the idea in the beginning because I really do not want to date a girl that's "buff", and I feel like people can get obsessed with the gym lifestyle and ruin their relationships, but we discussed it and I put it out of my mind. Recently, however, her trips to the gym have started to affect our relationship. Usually we talk in the mornings and at night, but she's been going to the gym at like 7:30am and 10pm which makes it really hard to talk, given our individual schedules. I feel like I'm a bit stuck since we've already talked through this at least once, but it's also starting to creep in a direction I'm not comfortable with for multiple reasons. One being that I think a girl that's starting to spend that much time at the gym is trying to get buff, and another being that the odd times she's going to the gym are starting a feedback loop where we don't get to talk at our regular time(s) and one or both of us gets a little more upset each time. I don't want to assume anything but I'm also not sure how to approach her about this.
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>got tired of >tfw no gf
>decide to try and pursue a girl and stop waiting for one to pursue me
>decide to go for a girl in my class whom i'm at least on speaking terms with
>she's a bit strange but I like it, she's cool, probably not that different from me
>overcome fears and start having lunch w/ her
>overcome fears and ask her for her number
>overcome fears and ask her out on a date over txt
>get nothing back for a while, assume it's a no
>already preparing myself for rejection and trying to figure out the best way to minimize awkwardness
>takes me leaving the building and receiving her text to remember the room I was in didn't have service
>she says she's busy but would let me know when she's not
I feel great, anons.
Only problem is, where the FUCK do I go from here? Literally every move I've made so far has been planned, but I don't have any ideas as to how to go on.
I don't want to come off as persistent or creepy, but I also don't want to make it seem like I don't care.
I haven't texted her since yesterday, though I did see her in class today.
Should I text her? What should I text her? What do I DO???