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I've realised very recently that I suffer from depression, and now see that I have done for a long time. I go through significant periods of "down", during which I feel that sinking feeling in my chest for long periods and lose all motivation, and struggle to use positive aspects of my life and positive thoughts and facts to feel better.
I've just failed an "arduous course" which is selection for airborne forces in the military. I'm the first person to fail it in my branch for 25 years - I went into the course having missed the first bit, unprepared and just having recovered from an injury, and piled in. Now I feel like utter, utter shit, I hate myself, I just want to run away, go AWOL and hide from it all. Naturally.
But this is a deep, depressing feeling that comes to me a lot of the time, and I'm fed up of feeling this way so much. Handling it is going to be especially difficult for me now, as the whole regiment is going to be bullying me and teasing me for failing the course. But in general, how do you handle or tackle depression? I do not - will not - see a medical practitioner about this, and I never will, as it will end my career.
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Currently dating this girl. She's a real sweetheart. Problem is, she hooked up with two guys on tinder. They basically smooth talked her into sex, she wanted commitment, they didn't so she broke it off with them.
She says she loves me. I don't think I can ever love her. Simply cause I wasn't her first. It pains me to think of another mans penis inside her, for this reason I feel like I can never give my all to her. Is this fucked or normal? Pls help me /pol/ i've been juggling with this issues for weeks
Shes very attached and clingy. It just makes my blood boil that 2 chads fucked her while fucking other girls at the same time. Maybe im jealous of them who knows.
Also i lost my virginity to this girl
I just wanted our first to be special. But itll never be, since shes already done these things with other men
ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything
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Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered.
Keep questions short for more answers.
If you're not going to like honest answers, don't ask your question.
And please no derailing arguments.
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
>Would you date a virgin?
Some do, some don't. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever. It takes hard work, time, and effort.
>I like someone. What do I do?
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out. If you can't automatically intuit this, the only way to build up that intuition is experience. So ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online. (See above. Start somewhere, build experience.)
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. You're overthinking it.
>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me please
We're not in their head, we don't know.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing.
>Someone has made it super clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>.
>Brandon, that guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships and fart guy
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I'm a medical student and my mixed feelings about humans in general are getting under my skin.
I feel a powerful urge to help people overcome sickness and give advice for a better living. Empathy comes easily when in personal contact. Yet, when I think about people, humanity, in abstract, I find life to rather meaningless and everything seems futile.
I don't know what I can tell myself. Will I be really making a difference when I graduate? Should I focus on myself, save money and live an easy life? Or should I give all my strength to humankind in general and live with some kind of messiah-complex?
I've been reflecting upon Camus' The Myth of Sisyphus and I can't really feel the urge to live and create as the books convinces me it's worth to.
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So here's the deal.
>21 yo virgin, never kissed, hugged, held hands, anything with a grill, zero experience
>Prostitution is legal in my country and there's a supposed 5 star brothel less than an hour from where I live
>Really feeling the need for intimacy/affection of some sort from a female
>Issue is I've been watching and fapping to porn almost daily for the last 10 years, so I'm concerned I'm going to have ED when the critical moment comes
How long would I have to abstain from fapping/porn until everything returns to normal?
Tried to get with girl who has BF
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Basically I met this girl at class and have been smoking weed with her constantly, seemed like she liked me. Found out she had a bf but said fuck it and invited her to hang out.
Long story short, we hung out and I was high af and a scared bitch so I didn't make any moves, even though I should of. I actually cringelorded that shit and was like
>So If i tried to make out with you how'd that go since you have a bf
> Well you knooooowwww maaaybbbeee
basically a yes because she would of just flat out said no. Anyways I talked about it for like 30min while smoking a bowl with her being a scared slut instead of making any moves, eventually i just drove her home and nothing came of it. She would of probably been down HAD i actually made a move.
she also told me she'd be down if she wasn't in a decent relationship or if she was drunk and mentioned you know how it'd be to be friendzoned or how guys view that etc etc.
Now.... I hung out with her again this week, but didn't make any moves either which was a fuck-up but i was actually just chilling being high and talking with her, wasn't feeling it at all nor did i care. I invited her out to hang this weekend but she hasn't said anything back yet.
Obv she's seen it and probably isn't down because she knows what I want and I think I sort of fucked myself. I'm not sure what I'm asking desu I'm just god awful confused as fuck over here you guys.
I gave the short version, I could go into what happened last week more or whatever. anyways ya pic unrelated.
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i've been in love with a woman for about five years now
we dated for the first year or so, it wasn't the greatest idea
she still lived at home, her parents were abusive and awful
she met a man two weeks after attempting to cut all ties with me
this turned out to be an even worse mistake, because he was a total asshole and their relationship only deteriorated
last year or so she told me he's a pedophile; she denies this now, and i have no evidence, so i don't know what exactly to do about that
i was always there for her against my better judgement, mostly because i have huge attachment issues
she's stuck there in his household, and my mental health gets worse every day, it seems
i know i won't cut ties, because i don't have the willpower
i've lost friends, the trust of others, etc
i've sacrificed almost everything i have for this nonsense
everything seems hopeless
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What's the maximum age over or under you that you would feel comfortable having a relationship?
For instance, when I was 17, some 21-year-old was flirting with me really hard, but I didn't feel comfortable with anyone more than a year or two older than me.
Likewise, now I'm 18, and some 15-year-old is flirting with me, but I don't feel comfortable with that, either, since I see a reasonable boundary as only about a year (MAYBE two) younger than me.
What do you guys think?