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I keep going on dates from Tinder and they're all failing horribly. I haven't been on a successful one since 2014.
When I meet the girls I don't know if it's in my head, but they don't look happy, like they don't smile when they see me, it's always just a stone faced greeting.
I met a girl a couple nights ago I had amazing chemistry with over 2 months of text, then when I greeted her in person she was like "hug", gave me a quick passive embrace, then kinda just stared forward and didn't really look at me or even smile until the drinks started flowing.
She was chatting, asking questions and stuff, I felt I had a really nice time with her and really fell for her (I'd been immediately infatuated with her pics already). But then at the end she was just like "it was nice meeting you" and didn't say she wanted to see me again, didn't say anything about talking again. And since then she's completely blanked me.
Another girl immediately was saying she can't stay out long. Another greeted me stone faced but then after some drinks did kiss me, did talk the next day, but then when I spoke about meeting again she stopped replying.
I don't understand what's happening, it's been ages since I had a girl smile and greet me.
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Why doesn't he want to be friends with me?
There was a guy I really enjoyed being around. Had lots in common and great chemistry together. But I've just never been romantically interested in him. He's very fun, very sweet, the nicest guy I've ever met. But I don't know why, I just never wanted to be more than friends.
But when he asked me out, I had to let him down. And since he's so nice, I decided to be honest, direct, but kind. He just nodded his head and, calmly, said that if this was the case, it's best he and I never speak again. Again, he was really calm and nice about it (my heart sank nonetheless). And when I rebuffed and suggested friends, he just told me no, which left an awkward silence between us. Shortly after, he smiled weakly and walked away. That was the middle of spring, and I haven't heard or seen him since. I miss him dearly.
What I don't get is that he's friends with a lot of women and seems to have no problem with it. And when I asked him (before he walked away) why they get to be friends with him and I don't, he told me it was because he doesn't have any feelings or romantic interest in them.
I don't understand.
Should I cut contact with me ex's brother?
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Little back story.
>Become friends with a guy at university, not super close but good pals.
>One day after we've graduated, his sister comes over to his place while we're hanging out.
>She and I hit it off immediately and start dating.
>I've never been in a serious relationship so I'm over the moon to finally meet a girl I'm genuinely into & she likes me back.
>We get along great so I decide to ask her brother if it's okay that I'm seeing her.
>He's totally cool about it.
>Relationship continues, gets very intense, she moves in with me.
>I'm ecstatic but it doesn't last.
>Intense emotional situation unearths my shitty personality and pretty heavy stuff from her past.
>I end up treating her badly and she leaves.
>We stay in touch but I agonise over the breakup for over a year.
>Still friends with her brother during, who seems oblivious to my behaviour.
>Recently she "asked for time" and I haven't heard from her in almost a month.
>Meanwhile, her brother is trying to get me work at the firm he works for.
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I used to smoke weed all the time as a teen. Only sparingly since then maybe once a year. I was gonna try to get into it and tried on 4 seperate occassions but couldn't because of closed eye visuals
Now im gonna say something youre not going to believe since it makes no sense to me so i dont know how it happened. When i tell you this weed wasnt laced i tell you in complete confidence. I got it from a family member. One of the closest people in my life and they had the stash for over a month and had been smoking on it. Anyway :
I smoked some by myself on my front porch (just a bowl), went back inside and started playing chivalry on my PC. As the high started to set more and more in i was engrossed in this world of chivalry more and more even to the point to where i said "i am a polygon man" when looking at my character's hand models. I had completely lost all sense of self.
The game was about defending the city and the corn fields where my character supposedly lived and so did his family. The game has some gruesome death scenes but all in all its pretty silly. My mind blocked out all the silly. All of a sudden im just some guy with a sword fighting other guys who are trying to kill my family. I start getting anxious. The game is real to me now. My family is going to die, im shit with a sword.
I stop playing after i realize whats going on, but look around my room and there is total darkness (its 3am and my wife is asleep in the bed behind me) with only the light from my screen to dimly light the room (just enough to see the bed). I wait as i try to remember where i am, i cant remember why i am where i am, or what my name is.
I sat there struggling trying to remember the names of everthing, i get my name, i remember desk, bed, over the course of a few minutes (or at least i think so, time was really hard to tell). I remember what a stroke is and start to wonder if ive had or am having a stroke. I panic a bit more.
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I'm a 19 year old virgin male. How do I stop myself from thinking about how much of a loser I am?
I'm not much to look at so I've started Accutane, working out, and growing out my hair for a better haircut eventually. I've tried to focus on things that I wanna do and having hobbies so I've started watching more shit and I've picked up making shitty music, shitty watercolor painting, and skateboarding/falling on my ass.
However, whenever I'm around people, like at the community college I go to, I become super insecure to the fact I've never had a romantic relationship and any sex.
What do I do, /adv/?
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Jesus Christ, this election, everyone involved, and social media is making my head spin. Seriously. If I stay quiet, I'm part of the problem. If I speak up, I'm on the wrong side and part of the problem. If I look at an issue a certain way, I'm part of the problem. If I look at something a certain way, I'm part of the problem. I'm sure if I shit a certain way, I'm part of the problem.
So basically no matter what, I can't do anything right? Anything I do and say is part of the problem...What the fuck is this election doing to people I used to know. What the fuck is going on!?!?! I seriously have no idea what to do or think anymore. I've been getting drunk all day off of tequila just keeping to myself and playing games. But I know that's making me part of the problem.
ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything
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Before you post a question, check the FAQ to see if it's already been answered.
Keep questions short for more answers.
If you're not going to like honest answers, don't ask your question.
And please no derailing arguments.
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
>Would you date a virgin?
Some do, some don't. Preferences differ, but complexes are always a turn-off.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practising and exposing yourself to it, little by little, step by step. There is no single magical moment that will instantly change you forever.
>I like someone. What do I do?
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. You're overthinking it.
>XYZ happened. Interpret this for me please
We're not in their head, we don't know.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing.
>Someone has made it super clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>.
>Brandon, that guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships and fart guy