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Hey guys, I really need relationship advice or just someone else's opinion to figure out myself what I really need and want.
I've been dating a girl who's nine years younger than me for about one and a half years. She's the second gilfriend I ever had, the first one I was dating when I was still in middle school. She died of cancer when we were 16. It was a painful experience, didn't date anyone for over ten years till I met my current girlfriend. We've known each other for 4 years combined now.
Lately it's been getting to me how hard it is to deal with her. She comes from a weathy family, lived a luxurious life when she was a kid. Now her mom and dad are divorced and her mom doesn't work, she lives with her mother (my griflriend's grandmother) Her dad is sending them money. As my girlfriend told me he's sedning money for her, but throught her monther and she a lot of the time keeps that money for herself, though she does buy things like cosmetics, dresses and shoes occasionally and gives small portions of that money. The rest she spends on herself. She's told me that her mom even tells her to ask her dad, so he would send more money sometimes.
My gilfriend sometimes complains how her mom always puts her down, how she says only negative things about her looks and clothes she buys and that makes her feel herself very insecure. But she loves her mother, I'm sure of it. I've met her, but even though I didn't get to talk much to her, she seemed nice. Her dad was always away and she didn't even know him much, but from her storied I got that he was a very calm and quiet, composed man and her mom was always the one who was screaming whenever there was fight. He had a problem with gambling.
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is this cheating?
>staying at my bf's beach house with his family for the new years
>on january 1st after partying and staying up late we're all mostly tired, some are sleeping, some are sitting in the backyard area
>bf is still sleeping around 11am
>I get up and go sunbathe in the backyard
>his dad and uncle are sitting there, the women are in the kitchen/outside
>I sit in a chair like pic related with sunglasses on
>fall asleep, really mostly a snooze
>wake up lightly and notice his dad and uncle are staring at me hard, commenting to each other, can't hear what
>realize they can't see I have my eyes open because of the sunglasses and think I'm sleeping
>keep looking at them looking at my body
>I don't even find them attractive but this is incredibly exciting for some reason
>pretend to readjust myself while sleeping and open my legs
>they are making faces to each other and looking shamelessly
>his dad clearly has the biggest boner
>eventually some of the women come out and my bf wakes up and that's that
is it horrible that I got off so much to this kind of attention/teasing? could it be after effects from the booze? does it classify as cheating of some kind? and why does it feel so whorish to write it out?
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I've been called clingy, needy, dependent, et cetera enough times to believe it. I've gone online and looked at sites that describe how to be less like this, and to sum it up it seems like the answer is pretty much "take all those thoughts and feelings normal people don't have and if you can't distract yourself from them by doing something that will make other people think you're more useful or interesting, keep them to yourself and just let them fester in your head forever because if you tell anyone you're not worth being around".
So is the choice really just between "be sad and scared and nervous all the time" and "do this but be quiet about it so the normal people can tolerate you"?
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I need adv /adv/, basically my sister is in college, has no job and is nothing but an expense on my family. I would explain all the bullshit things she's done but it wouldn't fit in one or two posts. I have ignored her alarming behavior but my family is now having financial problems. My father is a senior engineer for the government and makes 250k a year. My mother also works, we are a family of five and should not be in this situation. My sister is a failure and emotional wreck, to start it off, she takes classes she is interested in, my dad then pays for the expensive classes. Once the classes get hard she cries to my parents and drops the classes, no refunds. She has done this multiple times. She rented an apartment with a roommate. My father signed a one year lease and she didn't like her roommate, cried and moved back home after a month. She found a house with a friend and they lived there for a year splitting the bill. Her roommate is moving out and she cried to my parents and got them to rent the entire house to herself. My dad is depressed, every time he calls my sister out and says he can't afford these things, my sister says she'll kill herself for being a problem. I tell my dad to call her bluff and treat her like a child but he says he could never risk his daughter killing herself because of him. She always ask for money to buy makeup and useless things like expensive dinners. I can't stand being around her, I hate my sister. She is a 21 year old brat with no job, she majors in veterinarian science to pursue a career as a vet. My family is falling apart because of my sister and neither of my parents will call her out. I talk with my parents in private and they complain so much but they know they have to be careful. I'm not sure what to do, what can I tell my father, what can I tell my sister? It is depressing to see how hopeless my family is
ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything
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