Wanting White Children
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Been in a relationship with a non-white guy for a few years. I like him because he's dependable and sweet - but I always felt I was "settling" in some way, I was able to live with that though because the security was good.
The thing is, now I've hit my mid to late 20s, I feel an increasing urge to have kids and I really, really would feel more comfortable having children of my own race.
What shall I do? Suggest adoption? I'm not sure how easy that is. IVF from a white sperm donor?
I'm at a loss how to proceed. I should have seen this coming, I know.
How do I deal with this?
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I typically lurk between /pol, /x, and /b, and this will be the first time I've ever bothered with /adv, so feel free to deliver.
My wife of 8 years has just been diagnosed with an acute late stage, high grade, carcinoma. The prognosis is as bleak as it could be, but there is some hope in that it hasn't metastasized to elsewhere in her body.
We have two children under the age of 10.
My beautiful lady is 5 months from turning 31.
This situation has turned my entire life upside down, never before have I felt so helpless, so impotent, or unable to protect my woman, than now.
When confronted with such a problem, one would imagine that these feelings would be normal. I accept the logic behind such a statement.
What I want to know is how do I rationalise the coming death of my wife, my partner, the mother of my children? How do I rise above the acceptance of this knowledge that she will never see her son leave primary school, bring his first girlfriend home, have a beer with him on his 18th birthday? How do I reconcile the fact that my 3yr old daughter will never play tea parties, have her hair braided, or tell her mum how she thinks she likes some boy in her teens?
My life learned lessons up until this point in dealing with personal loss (both grandparents, father, brother, aunt, 3 family friends parents) had sustained me through a very tough past decade. But all that loss has not given me any solace in being able to rationalise this loss.
If any of you have been here before, your comment is welcome.