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My boyfriend hit me last night. He did it in retaliation, as I slapped him round the face first, but he hit me back much harder and really hurt my jaw.
Now, I'm not looking for sympathy because as I said, I slapped him first so I somewhat deserved something back. What I do want to ask is do you think a relationship can be fixed after something like this?
We've been together quite a while and this is the first time anything like this has happened. He's not a violent person and I genuinely think it was just a response to me slapping him. We had both been drinking as well.
He told me to shut the fuck up over something that was so frustrating that I slapped him as a joke. Turns out he didn't see it that way.
This morning he apologised profusely and said he felt awful. I also apologised and told him that I understood that my actions were what caused him to act that way. He said it didn't excuse his behaviour. I do believe that he is sorry.
I would appreciate some advice. I kind of look back on it and laugh, but at the same time I know things are very wrong when there is violence in a relationship.
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So /adv/, I need to be told if I fucked up, as well as what to do now.
>Be generally good looking, athletic (I box), nice college freshman with a slight dickishness about him & was terrible with women in High School (no girlfriends, ever)
>Girl I met at a party fall semester and me have been on and off in terms of talking/hanging out, but only had sex once (this doesn't bother me, never really cared about fucking)
>She’s an extremely great girl, really like her, I just don’t really text her because I always mess up because I get nervous
>Sometime this semester she finally asks what’s up between us, and I tell her I like her, I'm just bad at this and I don’t really go to parties so I can’t really ask her to do much (she's a partier but isn’t one to sleep around)
>She says in a nice way it’s no excuse, not in a mean way, but just the way someone who wants to connect would.
>Offer to bring her to my post-fight party in a few weeks. She says yes.
>Party comes around, she comes, and brings her two friends, when I pick her up, we walk to my friend’s house as we’re all going to attend the party together.
>He asks his fuckbuddy if she’s there yet, she says in 40 min and the girls interpret as the party doesn’t start for 40 and her friends and her leave.
>I’m destroyed, not only because she walked out, but because so much shit had gone downhill in that week that it was the one thing I could hope I could do right, and I couldn’t.
>We get into a text fight the next day, she finally says she’s sorry and she’ll make it up to me, I admit I was overacting and apologize for venting my other problems on her and that she doesn’t have to.
>She says its fine but in that way that you can tell it truly isnt.
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About 1 year ago, my boyfriend and I were going through some tough times. We had been together for 2 years by then, and he suddenly stopped wanted to hang out as much. He wouldn't even let me come over just to spend the night with him and make him dinner. He would still text me constantly, always updating me on what was going on, but a part of me felt like he was hiding something. He swore that he wasn't cheating on me, and he still swears that he was actually just "out of it" for those few months.
However, at the time, I felt really neglected. He used to be like saran wrap. He wouldn't even have sex with me when he used to want me 3-4 times a day, and he told me it was my fault. He kept threatening to break up with me and did several times.
I had only 2 local friends at the time, so I tried to spend my lonely days off of school and work with them, but when my boyfriend's attitude against seeing me persisted for 2 months, I just joined a dating site. I felt unwanted and stupid bullshit, so I just liked to watch as the guys would message me. I would just read 90% of the messages I got and delete them. A few of the guys... I texted them. My boyfriend knew I was on the dating site and seemed annoyed but didn't say anything further.
And after a few texts, I decided to meet one guy (in a public place). All we did was talk, and then I ditched him quickly. Nothing else happened. My doesn't know I met up with a guy.
I also talked to a few guys on skype that I met on /soc/. I told them I had a boyfriend and everything, and I told my boyfriend about it, but now, 1 year later, I still feel really weird about all of this..
Every time something in our relationship goes a little wrong, I blame myself for talking to those guys. Things are good between us now, though. Should I bring up what I did in the past? Part of me feels like I immaturely did it out of revenge, because he cheated on me in the 1st year of our relationship.
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Hey /adv/ i'm really confused...
In short, I had a thing with a girl in the summer, she ended it, i then had another chance with her in October, i missed it (waited too long), she then decided we would be just friends, didn't speak all of November/December, bumped into her a few day before new years, she is really happy to see me, spend time with her after new years, she reiterates "best friends", i realise no hope there, tell her i still like her, we don't talk for a few weeks, she calls on my birthday to say happy birthday, we start talking occasionally again, we try to meet on weekend but can't, she says this is my fault as i didn't call her to find out if she was free even though she had said she wasn't sure when i asked if she was free the previous day. She then phones me on Wednesday saying come over for dinner its me and 'female friend', i say i have family shit, whereas reality is i have school (i'm 18) and therefore i don't go out on school nights. She calls me 24 times in 1 1/2 hours which i ignore as i assume she will realise i'm 'busy' and texts me saying pick up the phone and ending with " i'm not going to bother trying to hang out again". I text her this morning saying 'wtf... my phone was on silent and upstairs' and she gets pissy with me and reiterates her not going to bother statement, so i end with 'i'm sorry you feel that way, if you have a change of heart i'm free Saturday'.
Wat is wrong with her ? I'm beginning to think she is insane
She doesn't seem to understand i have work to do on school days, and that i cant be going out to see her if i have school the next day, as this is my last year before uni and is important.
>attention seeker ?
> she knows i still like her, so she wanted the attention she can get from me without having to do anything ??
help me with this please
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The problem is that Valentine's Day is nigh, and I will not be able to see her, unless something just short of divine intervention happens.
But I've prepared a contingency plan: creating a Valentine's Day care-package.
>3 Massive Hershey Bars (2 different Symphonies, Cookies&Cream)
>One of my childhood plush toys
>A scarf that she bought for me the day we decided we were going to be together as long as we could make it
>A 2-page letter written half in verse, half in common vernacular about "love" and stuff
Ideas? Too cheesy? Weird? More things to put in there?
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>was raped and molestated when 8 and 9 by relative
>unable to love- never had even a 'crush' on anybody
>found a great bf in hope to break it and 'love'- failed, do not feel anything towards
> have 'brutal' fetishes, not able to attach love to sex
>have not hugged my mother or father vouluntary for years now
>unable to speak to them normally, always feel intimidated (for no reason)
>nobody knows about it, since it will only fuck up their lifes
>very low-self esteem, feel like shit
>feel bad even when having more 'unusual' but pretty clothes- 'you are not worth it, people will only laugh when they'l see you' logic
>unable to do anything while people achieve success
> extreme coward, afraid of anything including posting on facebook and riding a car
>aware that is pushing too much problems on this one trauma and feel even more stupid and worthless about it.
I know that to some point the trauma is an excuse- but I think ittouches my life in all fields. What can I do?
btw, Posted this ealier somewhere in /adv/ today but feel I need separate thread. I am really insecure about posting this problem and I do not feel I will be able to post it again any other day.