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OK, if you were dating a girl that doesn't give head, would you consider that a dealbreaker?
I find myself in that situation. My GF and I have been dating about a month, and I wondered why she hadn't blown me yet, because I had eaten her out. So I straight up asked her to do it the other day, and she confessed to me that not only had she never done it before, but she doesn't give blowjobs, and that she didn't think she could ever bring herself to do it.
What the Fuck man? I was like, are you freaking serious? What girl doesn't do that in this day and age. She asked me if it was really important and I told her your damn right it was, that if she could never do it, I would really have to evaluate if this relationship could ever go anywhere. I mean she had no fucking problem letting me pleasure her.
So she got upset about me saying that, and put it on me, would I really break up with her if she could never do it. I told her I think I might, if put in that position. So the last time we saw each other, we were sort of at this standstill.
Shit, what would you do here? She's a great girl, but Fuck man, no blowjobs? Ever?
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Hello /adv/, I need some help getting rid of my anxiety regarding a particular subject. To summarize:
>A long time ago
>Like a non-blood-related cousin
>Long story short, he becomes my first boyfriend
>He's blood-related to other non-blood-related cousins I had a closer relationship with
>One of them likes the guy, makes it clear to him, he rejects her (this is before we were together)
>I find out some things that my cousins have said to him about me
>Nothing too serious but coupled with "advice" they gave me beforehand which I really disliked and I got angry at them
>Guy breaks up with me
>Tries to explain himself, and in the process of doing so mentions all of the things that I am the most insecure about (at that moment)
>Feel like shit, start pulling away from that side of my family
>Live in another state, so it's not that hard
>Move back to state
>That side of the family has a very strong, different political position from my family
>I'm not a political person, but I am angered by insults and baseless comments on twitter
>One was even indirectly to me
>Ignore that shit, but now feeling absolutely no want to get together with them
>Still feel guilty for ignoring them, since they're still being nice to me (aside from the comment on twitter), asking me over to their house
Every time I have to interact with them, I just feel incredibly anxious because there is something I know I should do (maybe apologize for being distant? Or try to fix the situation?) and what I want to do (simply live my life, let them live theirs, and that's it). I don't want to create (more) drama by trying to fix the situation, and honestly, I don't even know what I would say. Apologizing seems wrong. Explaining my problems with them also seems wrong.
I don't know what to do. Part of me wants to say "fuck it", and just not give a shit, but... I feel so guilty for doing that, feel bad for thinking that they'll speak poorly about me behind my back... What should I do?
Changing IP Address
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Right so I've figured out that it's my router IP that I need to change (yeah, took me a while)
So the whole cmd approach doesn't work, have yet to formally try the 'turn it off for 8 hours' since I'm pretty wired in 24/7.
Setup on a BT Home Hub, tried the settings and the whole "you can amend the IP address/subnet mask that you want the BT Home Hub to use"
I picked a 'recommended' one, did the lease for 21 days, didn't work.
So how do I choose an IP to use, any suggestions? I do apologise, I'm not great with this sorta thing.
I keep seeing that there's a 'range' you can move your ip around to, although I can't seem to find anymore on this.
Help is really appreciated
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> Be me, 26 male
> Work full time as a barista in nice coffee shop
> Make $9/hour
> Still live with parents 'cause I was dumb in my early 20's
> Racked up debt on credit cards; I just now finished paying them off
> Go to college part time while I work
> Couple semesters away from graduating with a BA in History and Art History
> GF left me about a year ago because she thought I wasn't trying to do anything with my life, despite working 30-40 hours a week and taking 1 or 2 classes a semester
> Become depressed and don't give a shit about anything
> Didn't go to school last semester because I finally had a mental breakdown because I became so stressed about not being "good enough" to graduate with a BA in 4 years and have some nice house and high paying job like our society expects and not being "Good enough" for any girl in the world because I let this one break me down
> Now taking meds for anxiety and depression, which, looking back, I've always dealt with but covered it up to "fit in"
> Don't have many friends, and most of them are married, so getting a roommate I'm comfortable with is next to impossible, so I'm stuck with parents
> I've also got this crush on a girl I used to work with, and she comes back in to the shop every once in a while
>Other employees have noticed because they claim I'm "happy" or "glowing" when she comes in and just seem "neutral" towards every other customer when she's not around
> Want to ask her out on a date, but afraid she'll reject me for my shortcomings (living situation, lack of a BA degree, though I do have an AA in photography, my depression, and a slight but growing arthritis problem in my ankles and knees).
> She's 1 year older than me and lives with another girl, so we'd at least have private intimate times there if things work out
> But self esteem problems keep me from asking her out
> Should I go for it and see what happens or wait until I finally get my own place now that I've settled my debt problems?
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>be with childhood friend (amazing girl, beautiful but psycho)
>breakup in alot of drama and tears and hurting-contests
>i go no contact, stay super ice cold for 4 years
>during these 4 years she constantly tries to get in touch, sends me old pictures, tries to call, i act like i dont give a fuck (obviously hurting her)
>after those 4 years i get curious and mail her to meet for some beers
>she seems extatic
>we meet, i'm dressed like i dont give a fuck she is looking amazing
>she is very very flirty, asks me to stay longer and go to dance with her
>i decline, act kinda uninterested but make it clear that i would like for us to become friends again
>after i drop her at her friends place she says "see you in 4 years" jokingly
>at this point i was alphalpha as fuck but i really wanted my childhood friend back i felt the connection
>i go full potatoe (im excited to be able to talk to her) and text her way too much and act way too awkward over text
>she noticeably grows increasingly weirded out and confused
>eventually blocks me on fb and never ignores every message (i sent 2 after that)
what is most likely to have happened?
- she still loves me and my "i wanna be friends" thing offended her femininity too much
- she was just teasing me seeing if i was still interested, but wasnt really interested
i am confused.
Friendship to relationship?
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There is this girl that I used to know for a long time before she left the school i was in, untill this year when i found her randomly on facebook, started chatting, find out that we share so much in common (like seriously even the way we dress and such), became best friends. 2 months ago my brain was completely like : that's the girl you're looking for, she's the one.. And so i did confess. She was kind of shocked at first, but then she kept asking me about why do i love her and such, I asked her best friend (a girl) about her, and she told me that what i'm trying to do is really hard, since she never had a boyfriend and she's kind of bossy, and that's true, despite being really senstivie, she's really strong and i admire that, so her best friend told me to stay by her side as much as i can.
Is there any chance for me? I'm not quite the person that would go boldly at her, i'm kind of afraid that if i step it up it would screw up our friendship.
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what could possibly cause hair loss in an 18 year old male? It's nothing hereditary, my both father and my grandfather have never been suffering from major shedding. Also, it's not male pattern related since my entire scalp is equally affected.
I've been switching shampoos back and forth and apart from the dandruff one of them gave me, nothing changed.
Moreover, I've been eating healthily for the past six months; the hair loss started about one month ago. For the past five years, my nutrition consisted of microwavable foods and frozen pizza and I didn't encounter any problems regarding my hair whatsoever. Also, I've been taking brewer's yeast supplements for the past four months in order to improve my skin, but it's also supposed to benefit the hair.
Something else that might be relevant is that I'm allergic to pollen (is that the actual English term? If not, I'm talking about the plants' semen flying about through the air in summer) and am taking Aerius (an antihistamine) as a remedy.
Please help me; I cannot emphasize enough how keen I am on stopping this as soon as possible. It's not reached the point where it starts getting visible yet, however, I can feel it each time I run my fingers through my hair. I don't want to go bald at 18 while all the men in my family still have a full head of hair at the age of 60 and well above.
Thanks in advance!
Pic related, it's not mine though. Just a google images result for "hair loss".
Vasectomy questions & answers
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I had a vasectomy when I was 23 and I've never looked back.
A vasectomy is the ultimate form of birth control, and took only 18 minutes from start to finish. I did get a semi during the operation, and three people were there to see it, but otherwise I've been in more embarrassing situations in the past so it's no biggie.
I was nervous as hell of course, but in the end I had nothing to worry about and (apart from the anesthetic needle) it was entirely pain free. No, I really mean it - I felt nothing.
If you have any questions at all, let me know and I'll answer with advice. If not, that's cool, this thread can die a peaceful death.