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My boyfriend is not very experienced sexually, is rather shy, and lets just pure beta. I've been trying to get him to be more open about his fetishes, fantasies and preferences in the bedroom. I try wearing lingerie, bringing toys, all kinds of things. When I ask him what he likes or what he wants to try, he gets shy and says "Whatever you want". The only time he really tells me is after we've been flirting in texts about it, he'll briefly mention "Oh the bunny outfit you had one time? I loved that.."
How do I get him to be less shy about these things? I want to do anything for him, but this makes it so hard. Also doesn't give me much input when I ask. Just very brief answer. This weekend I tried anal for the first time with him and I think I was more into it than he was, he just said "it feels pretty much the same" and switched back.
Any advice on how to break his shell? We've been dating nearly a year and been having sex just as long, so there's no real reason why he should still be embarrassed...
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I miss the way my girlfriend was so into me when we first began our relationship, always happy, laughing at any jokes i made, wanted sex 24/7, blushed at any compliments i would make. The honeymoon phase was a good time, not to say its bad now, its just more relaxed and solidified, were comfortable around each other and its not so much exciting being around each other as it is peaceful and pleasant.
Does this happen to all relationships?Sometimes when were at a party or something i will notice she has that twinkle in her eye and smile on her face when she talks to other guys because shes putting on that happy go lucky persona, and it makes me a little jealous because that doesnt happen to me anymore, she used to say she got butterflies around me a lot. Even compliments i give now she will ignore or give a half assed thanks because shes come to expect them from me. We dont flirt much anymore either, it just doesnt seem natural anymore, we instead just talk about our day and tell each other we love/miss each other.
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I heard somewhere you can get too jaded from regular porn if you watch it too much, and start searching kinkier and weird stuff. I saw reliable, like neurocientists or those researches speaking on TED talks, and also unreliable sources, like people telling that from experience. In both cases I heard situations of people that even go from straight porn to bissexual or questionably gay porn. Well, I went through this myself and after too much porn (because i'm a shut-in loser) I got jaded and slowly progressed into weirder stuff. Eventually it got to a point the idea of guy on guy started turning me on for being more perverted and wrong (in terms of personal internal psycology, not as a judgement of moral or vaue over it). It is now so bad that it actually turns me more on then straight porn, although that works. Now my questions...Is there a way to know if I'm just Jaded from regular porn or if I really have bissexual tendencies? And if its the former, have any of you any experience, first hand or not, about you being able to 'change' back to just straight? I'd prefer not to be Bi for a number of reason. But mostly because it sucks for guys socially. (I'm a shut in, but not AS much of a shut-in, I'm still able to find a girl maybe once a year or so and I have friends and fuck.)
Don't know what to do or tell him.
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So I have something to share, and I'm looking for some information, so where ever you can assist me would be appreciated. So I get a call from my closest friend that I've known for about 8 years now and learned he was pulled over and arrested last night and was charged with driving under the influence of marijuana and had his car impounded. He's had charges in the past but it never went to court so the charges were dropped, Question is, can those charges that never made it to court resurface, or can they be used against him in any way? He's never been to jail or anything like that, so is it likely he'll get time for it? He's been taking it pretty badly and I don't blame him, He feels like his life is now screwed and his dream of joining the army is gone, I've never seen him break down before, I have no idea what I can do.
Is there anybody out there that have encountered similar situations in their time or know anything about this, their input would be greatly appreciated.
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This is a dumb question and I feel incredibly shameful and fedora-core-esque for asking, but how are you supposed to hug a girl?
I always felt like they'd think I was a perv if I hugged them with our chests pressing together, like I would hug a man. So I sorta bend at the waist and come at it from an angle -- not a problem as I'm a tall guy -- thus insuring I can not be alleged to have "copped a feel." I'm pretty sure this is the way you're supposed to do it to, as I've noticed some girls also do the bend-at-the-waste move too.
Anyways, today after school I went to hug goodbye this girl I've been chatting with for awhile. I wasn't thinking I guess and I didn't bend over and her breasts (not large but significant) pressed right up against my chest. To further the problem, lately I've been trying to give really confident "squeezes" in all my hugs as I've been told they "feel like nothing" and that "hugging you is like hugging a noodle."
I think she might think I purposely copped a feel. She gave me a sorta weird look after.
What should I do? I typed up an apology on my phone explaining that it was a mistake and I would never take advantage like that, but I haven't sent it yet. Maybe this is one of those things best left unacknowledged. I'm sure accidents like this happen all the time.
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>boy meets girl
>not interested at first
>get to know her better
>she looks like a random whore, but is in fact virtuous
>realize how great she is
>become nearly obsessed by her
>dream about her, think about her multiple times a day
My problem is, I'm used to face whores, and I've never been in a serious relationship. I have no idea on how to seduce her now, as we know each other quite well.
Should I just tell her that I love her ?
Also, she might not be totally indifferent. When I'm talking to a girl she doesn't know, it happens quite often that she comes to us to interrupt the conversation.
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How do I hide my (for lack of a better term) powerlevel?
I feel as though I put people off sometimes because of my tastes. For example; I order expensive organic soap from the internet, I cook my own meals with good quality ingredients, and I buy coarsely ground coffee from a local boutique and brew it in a french press. I also listen to relatively obscure but great music, dress decently, am pretty attractive, exercise regularly, have a deep and powerful voice, and my dad is rich.
I sound like I'm seriously overconfident and I am, but there is truth to all of these things.
My question is what to do about it. I get the sense that most people feel like I am trying to be a one-upper or make myself look better than them. I honestly don't feel that way, I'm just particular about what I like. I try to be humble, but I feel like people get intimidated or think I'm a snob or an asshole.
So what's your... advice?
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A long-ass while ago a girl who's a "bro" admitted her feelings for me. I declined any implied offers because as that point I didn't realise how interesting she was - she's a few years younger than me and came off a little like a "lol randum" kid. Now I realise she's just an unusual character and comes off a little strong at first. I genuinely enjoy the time I spend with her; a lot of it is spent with another mutual friend and although I do think highly of him too I find myself rathering just spending time with her.
Is this worth pursuing or, given our history (and slight age gap), should I just throw this away as childish? If I should pursue her, how exactly could I show my interest in her without a) scaring her away or b) making it awkward if she no longer feels like that for me?
TL;DR: Girl wanted me, I declined now I regret. Wat do?
Apologies for awful grammar / spelling / flow, I've had a couple drinks.
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Did you guys ever ended up with a long term friend? Someone you've known since forever. Kind of like your Joey Potter or your Dawson Leery (for those of you who get the reference).
How did it happen? How was it?
>Been friend with girl since we were children. Ambiguous relatonship
>she introduced me to my first gf whom I recently broke up with
>had a party, invited that friend
>turns out all my friends are unanimous on the fact that she likes me, she "has sparkles in her eyes, smiles when she talks about you and wont leave you, or stop looking at you. And when a girl is like that there's more than just friendship". (more than ten people telling me this one after the other, disturbing shit)
>after a week of being told that I'm missing on something I think about it: she's a 19 year old girl who's in a couple with a guy she fucked but didn't want as a boyfriend. In the meantime she kept contact with her ex who lives in another country and she still prefers him over her bf. >Her boyfriend is out of the country too
>looks pretty much like a dead end to me. Friends, especially girls insist on the fact that she probably didn't expect me to make a move and it means nothing
Anyway. I don't plan on doing anything with that girl yet, but it got me curious to know if such a thing happened to someone else. You or anyone you know.
Thanks for sharing. And if you have an opinion on my story, feel free to share too. Some advice would be helpful.