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My boyfriend is not very experienced sexually, is rather shy, and lets just pure beta. I've been trying to get him to be more open about his fetishes, fantasies and preferences in the bedroom. I try wearing lingerie, bringing toys, all kinds of things. When I ask him what he likes or what he wants to try, he gets shy and says "Whatever you want". The only time he really tells me is after we've been flirting in texts about it, he'll briefly mention "Oh the bunny outfit you had one time? I loved that.."
How do I get him to be less shy about these things? I want to do anything for him, but this makes it so hard. Also doesn't give me much input when I ask. Just very brief answer. This weekend I tried anal for the first time with him and I think I was more into it than he was, he just said "it feels pretty much the same" and switched back.
Any advice on how to break his shell? We've been dating nearly a year and been having sex just as long, so there's no real reason why he should still be embarrassed...
molested as a young boy
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Let me start off by saying i was molested as a young child, and im a straight male
i am finally coming to terms to accept i was molested when i was 6-7 years old by my cousin who was around 18 at the time
cousin is slightly mentally disabled, he can live on his own, hold a job, but he cannot get a license, he is a highly functioning mentally handicapped individual
i am 22 now, and i want to tell my parents, mainly my mom. Now if/when i do, my whole family, grandma, grandpa, aunts uncles, will disown him
here's the kicker, he is already in a state half way house because 5 years ago he molested another girl, but this girl has a history of letting men have sex with her then her turning around and saying it was rape, so my family is half sympathetic for him, but i know damn well that he did rape her because he molested me as a child
now he never penetrated me, it was just him undressing me, and just playing with me, touching, licking, and never made me perform any acts on him
i cant say that it really fucked me up, but when i was about 13 something hit me really hard when i remembered it, and i thought i was gay, and i was TERRIFIED because i thought since that happened, it meant i was gay, and i didn't want to be gay because i knew i liked girls, this fear faded after a couple months and i kind of forgot about it, i have only told 1 person my whole life, and it was an ex of mine because she broke down and told me the time she was molested, so i shared my story with her
Only thing im afraid of is hurting my mom, she loves me to death, and i know hearing this will hurt her
now, age 22, im fine, ive never had flashbacks, nightmares, never unconditionally freaked out about my experience, i do quite well with women, but i have problems opening up my heart (like all men right), and im not the best in relationships, only being in 3 real relationships, yet ive sexed upwards of 20 women (cont)
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My girlfriend likes rough sex. Every girl I've been with has liked rough sex. Virtually every girl on the internet says they like rough sex. I don't like rough sex. What the hell am I supposed to do? I mean, I like having passionate sex, man-handling, taking control, etc, but I don't see how I'll ever be able to derive pleasure from calling a girl I love a slut or choking her. I feel like I'm putting on an act the entire time. Does it ever get better? Can you learn to like this type of shit without internalizing it to the point where you think every girl a stupid fuck-toy?
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So my girlfriend has shit-tier taste in music and constantly judges me on what I listen to, versus the garbage she listens to. Difference between her and I is I don't actually bitch to her about her music, but she'll ALWAYS change my CD's out of my car, skip songs on my ipod to something she likes, or completely disregard me.
What do I do? It makes me so angry someone can have such poor taste in music to go on and tell me my music taste is 100% just as bad.
I listen to pretty much anything. Dubstep, D&B, Chiptune, Country, Rap, Hip Hop, Punk Rock, Metal etc. She won't listen to practically anything...
Job Seeking, in all honesty
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So, how hard is it REALLY, to get a job?
I'm a white male in the UK, I have no degree but some highschool qualifications, I'm well spoken, can be smartly dressed and confident.
Do you really need a degree or mad connections just to land a decent £15k-30k job? Or are the neets on 4chan just lazy?
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I need some serious advice.
>Live with girlfriend
>She gets 700/month, I clear 280/week
>One car between us
>Someone hit her a month ago, same insurance company, they refused to pay out to either side.
>Would cost 800 to fix internal damage, 2k if we wanted to fix body. Car still drivable
>Yesterday, I rear-end someone. Damage to the front would cost another 600 to fix, more internal damage. Car still drivable
>Today, car stalls, fuel pump gave out, car no longer drivable
>No family or friends who give enough fucks to help
>Can't get to my job on Saturday
>Girlfriend is recovering from cancer and can't get to any doctor's appointments or her surgery on monday
We've already sold almost everything sellable recently just to pay the bills. There is no more money saved up. I'm trying to pull 800 from my 401k to help some. The car would cost way more to fix than its value. I have no credit or a decent down-payment to put to a new vehicle.
On top of this, we're behind on rent and the bills are stacking up more every day.
I have no idea what to do.
Is my girlfriend asexual?
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I'm having some kind of confusion with my girlfriend, so I want to know what do you guys think:
->She's a quite pretty and smart girl, but somewhat insecure because she had some childhood issues with her family.
->Despite her being pretty she had only one boyfriend before me, and that one was because she had social pressure as people in highschool were telling her that she was lesbian because she never had a boyfriend.
->She told me that she is never phisically attracted to anyone, only famous people (Johnny Depp, Leo Dicaprio, some K-Pop guys.. but because they're "pretty" as in aesthetic)
->For me to get to be her boyfriend was very troublesome, I asked her out for like a year. And there were moments in that time that she said yes, but then repented before we saw each other again.
->She told me that when she finally said yes (the real one), she was quite unsure if she had to say yes or no.
->I found out that with her previous boyfriend she kissed a lot but only because he wanted, so in a way he forced her to kiss for long time and she never wanted to kiss him (not even once)
->She told me that she didn't like kissing, so when I started as her boyfriend I gave her some space but one day I kissed her and then apologized but she said that it was okay, so I started kissing her normally and sometimes she gives me kisses
->We started having sex, she was very nervious and insecure at first but then it became somewhat normal
->One day she cried when we were having sex and said "stop..", it was very weird.. I felt like a rapist because she cried a lot.. when we talked about it she said that she didn't knew why it happened. Some days later she said that she didn't liked to recive oral sex and that was the reason (note: before she did enjoy oral sex, the only thing that she didn't liked about it was that for her my "mouth gets dirty so she can't kiss me")
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Hey /adv/. Bit of a dilemma here. I've tried everything that I can think of to get my boyfriend to fuck me more, but one of my biggest issues is that I find it very hard to be sexy. I always end up being told that I'm just "cute" or he laughs when I try to be sexy with him. I try doing sexy things for him randomly to try to get him in the mood. I've tried pictures, talking dirty, wearing lingerie, and even sexy costumes and such. I've even tried randomly cooking him breakfast with not a stitch of clothing on. I've never felt more unsure of my sex appeal until now.
I've tried talking to him about it, and he keeps trying to reassure me that it's just that his libido isn't as high as mine. This has been the bane of our relationship. I've never felt like I had to beg for sex in any relationship until now, and I honestly don't know what to do about it. Other than this one stupid thing, our relationship is almost perfect. I don't know what to do. Help me /adv/.
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About a month ago now I got in a pretty bad breakup after two incredibly happy and close years, it took me by complete surprise (and her) and now we're not talking at all, and she's experimenting with other guys. It's really stressing me out.
This morning I noticed my hair is getting really thing in the front right here, it's hard to see in a picture unless I move some hair around, but it's definitely noticeable when it's just sitting flat too.
Is this permanent? Do you think it's just stress induced? I'd like to think it has something to do with just the breakup, and it'll grow back, but I have a date with a girl in a week (which should help lessen the stress) and I don't want to look like I'm balding. Is there anything I could do to help it really?