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I'm with the man of my dreams. He's handsome, moderately smart and honest, and great in bed.
But I would much prefer to be with my very intelligent, cute, antisocial, mostly asexual, dishonest, autistic ex boyfriend for reasons I'll never be able to understand but can only describe that he made me physically feel 'in love'.
With my current bf i don't get flutters of feel electric at his touch.. i want it to happen but it doesn't. I should love him, but I can't make it happen, and I just keep thinking of my crappy ex and the intense physical sensations of being in love that I used to get.
I'm pretty depressed because I'm so dissasosiated with the world right now and the only time I felt alive was with my ex because I had the physical sensation of love.
Now I feel like a sociopath because I've been pretending (in the hopes of falling in love) to be in love for three years with this one guy I'll probably end up marrying.
So tell me adv? How can I force myself to physically feel love for this man? I'm willing to do anything
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Hello /adv/, it feels really weird to come up here to talk about this, but i really need something to clear my head and to open up a bit. My english sucks, so sorry.
I've dated this girl for 4years, we have long history, and we have known for 8years. We have been pretty serious about this whole thing, and we have always trusted and loved each other much. She means the whole world to me, and im surprised i've ever cared about someone or something that much.
Few weeks ago, she told me openly that shes interested into another person, i took this well and appreciated her honesty. She then wants to "leave me with respect", that i wont cut all ties to her, basicly asking for permission to see whats other side of the fence, you know? She then states that this might be her worst decision of her life, leaving me she says, and that she cant understand why she is doing it, even when she says how much she cares and loves me. This is heart shattering, because i feel completly powerless and its like we both watch her slip away from our relationship. She regrets already what she has not even done yet. Its really hard situation to explain, but i really REALLY love her and im even ready to let her go for her own happiness, but just giving up in here when even herself cant agree what she is doing? No way.
We havent talked about the 'breakup' now for a few days, but last words she sayd about the subject was that she was sorry for the whole thing, and she wants to go on with "day-by-day"-basis. What should be my move in here? What can i even do?
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I don't feel like my boyfriend is passionate about me.
I don't want to bring it up because I don't want it to be an unnatural thing, on the other hand, the more I am with him, the more he gets 'too' comfortable, the more complacent he gets.
I am up and down in this relationship and as a result, I feel insecure and unsure.
He is a great friend as well as boyfriend, but I'm thinking just friends is as far as we should get at this point.
Give me advice or words of wisdom, /adv/.
Ask anything as long as anonymity remains.
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I want to learn how to sing, /adv/.
My current skill is non-existant, I'm off-key, can't hold a note, and get hoarse after singing one 2 minute song. However, I'm pretty sure this is mostly due to lack of practice, I haven't sung, ever. I'm not aiming for opera-level amazing voice by the way, just passable and not ear-bleedingly bad.
How do I go about this? Are there books or videos or something? I guess I could join a choir or something, but my current singing is just *so* bad, I don't want to inflict it upon innocents.
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Tommorow im going to say it: I feel something more than the feels of friendship.
I had been avoiding her trying to figure out what to do, scared to fall in love with a good friend. She wanted to talk to me, and she was worried why i was so abscent towards her lately, but i just told her not to worry.
But there's a party tommorow and i will probably be able to tell her what the real deal is after some drinks (however smart or stupid that is), and that's what i decided to do. I'm not counting on her feeling the same way, but it's okay that we are friends, the problem being, that i very much would like for us to remain friends, without it being weird or different (I know the required awkward cant be avoided, but i'm thinking in the long run).
So tl;dr how do i teel her i got the feels for her in a way that she wont mind still staying friends as before and it not being to awkward?
Job-searching, depression, monotony.
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In order for any of you to understand this we need to rewind almost a year. I was living in the mid-west for like the third time and desperately needed a change in scenery and I was interested in going back to school. My parents had moved to Maine about a year before that and lived about 45 minutes away from this really dope art school. This and that happened, and soon I was staying at my rents house, getting ready to start school (My portfolio had already been reviewed and accepted). I was really stoked for this, I felt like I was on the right track. That's when I realized how much art school costs. I never expected my parents to give me a full ride to college. I knew that they wanted to help out with what little they could, but it was my responsibility to seek scholarships and figure out a way to earn as much as possible to avoid loans. I worked on that for a few weeks and quickly realized that it's difficult as fuck to get scholarships when you homeschooled through high-school and have been done for three years
>come to the conclusion that I would have to save every penny I earn AND be in debt the next few decades for a degree which I didn't believe would help me get a job. So I got cold feet. After all of the meetings and paperwork, I had to call the school and tell them that I wasn't going.
Hold on, that's not why I'm here.
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I am really nervous tonight. I am about to move out and live with two friends. The rent will be split three ways, and I should have that shit covered, but I will basically not be able to eat or pay utilities unless I get a job. I am nervous about moving to a new city and getting a job so I can eat and what not. I have all the qualifications to be a bartender, barista and waiter in the city in question. I am a relatively handsome, well-spoken, well-mannered guy and feel as if I should be able to get a job pretty quickly.
Do I put my big boy pants on and bite the bullet and go on a mystery adventure where I say, "Fuck it, it will all work out; I can scrape bubblegum off of park benches and eat that if the worst comes to worse and shower at my gym!" or am I being crazy? I am pretty sure my friends are aware of my situation. My family says I need to take the risk.
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Does anyone have experience with therapists breaking more than they fix?
I've been having therapy about my emotionally abusive father since last year. I decided my lowest points were getting too low, and I wanted to fix these issues with professional help.
The first therapist looked into some OCD issues I developed to deal with my emotions, but when I returned to her after a few months asking for help for all the emotions and memories I now had to deal with instead, she couldn't help me.
The second said we should dig up some very specific trauma's to use in EMDR sessions (desensitising the memories with the help of brain stimulation, weird but it works). When we were done after a few weeks and I was ready to tackle the things I deal with daily she said practicing EMDR on the shit I barfed up for her should have solved all my problems, and that she doesn't know how to help me in daily life.
In the meanwhile I am yet again left without a therapist, an open shitpit of childhood trauma's I didn't even know I had, and no way to deal with it because I am cured of my OCD.
My last therapist advised I should instead visit a shrink to get me on medication, while she didn't diagnose me with anything like depression or things more severe. All I want is a good therapist who can hand me tools to deal with my problems (how my abusive dad raised me), rather than with the symptoms (OCD and the memories).
Do any of you have similar experiences with different therapists? Did you feel medication was an answer?
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/fit/izen here. i've been lifting for about 6-7 months now, starting out as a skellington. the sole motivation of it was so girls/women would start seeing me as a more attractive person. i've gotten rid of the zits and made myself more presentable. Im not a greek god, but im absolutely above 5/10.
Im feeling better about myself and eventually decide to meet up with a girl, she's absolutely perfect for me. i get her number and she gets mine.
I gather up the courage to ask her out (wich she agrees on)
The same day she's on the phone, and i ask her who it was, she says that it's her boyfriend.
I feel like shit right now and we're still going to meet up tomorrow. It feels like it would be best for us just to stay friends so im asking you, How do i pull this off without making it seem awkward?