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For those of you who were here last night, I was the guy who has no self confidence despite my many life experiences and abilities.
Is there a rough idea of how long it takes to sort of turn life around? Like is it over a few months? A year? Many years?
I understand depending on certain situations, it may take a long time, but can anyone offer some predictions in my case?
I'll greentext some life details:
>no self confidence, and have trouble standing up for myself
>havent made any friends since high school (3 years ago)
>chronic illness that many doctors thought i wouldve died from during childhood/teen years
>travelled to 4 countries, 2 of which in different continents
>intelligent (good grades throughout school and doing well in uni engineering program)
>working out fairly regularly (when im not in forced recovery mode for illness)
>family is all sorts of fucked up, but i only see them during the school holidays and half of summer
>currently picking up newer hobbies and trying to gain new experiences
>no work, but receive disability benefits
I'm kind of hoping for 2 and a half months to become a more confident, outgoing, and charming person for 2 main reasons:
1. My birthday is last week of March and I'd like to start that next year in a better position (like myself, confident, good life setup, etc.)
2. I'm going to Hawaii for spring break (also in March, ends the day before my birthday, actually), and wouldn't mind connecting with people while I'm there
Is this plausible in this timeframe, or should I pull my expectations back a bit?
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If you've already had sex a few times and you know the chick is committed to you, and currently obsessed with you, is it wrong of me to break it up because I feel more attracted and connect a lot better with someone else? I've already told her that I'm looking for a relationship and not just fooling around. We aren't in a relationship yet, but we've already said we are committed to each other. Yes, I kind of fucked that up.
I'm looking for a relationship, but I honestly don't think we connect at all, she doesn't talk, seems like she has no hobbies, just seems like a chick who tries and fails to socialize most of the time. She's cute, great body, and very submissive. There's been a few red flags that cut out the option of a long-term relationship completely for me, but I don't care at all about it since I'm not in love with her. I'm afraid of being attached to this girl as well.
I've already tried to break up with her, but I basically pussied out during the conversation and somehow got into agreeing to start a relationship with her at some point. The fact that I see her closest friends almost every day is a factor. They've been so supportive of it that I'd feel extra terrible for making rash decisions.
I can think of two or three girls that I would much rather be in a relationship with, and she knows there's one or two girls I was interested in while she was following me around. Seems like nothing will make her change her mind.
Is it fair to her for me to enter this relationship if I have no interest in it being a long-term thing like she wants? Is it better for her if I just break it off now?
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I confess that after several years, and after a few so-called "serious" relationships, me and my own sister still meet up in secret and make passionate and perverted love. We used to live together, but eventually our lusting became obvious to our parents and after all the denial and then the shame, we were forcefully separated. Though we only live one state away we rarely see each other now. But recently we started catching up again. And the fact that we are both in long term relationships made us want to go back to our old ways, and so we did..
I confess that we've been regularly seeing each other again. We go to the movies, to eat, or we just drive around together. The fact is we might love each other more than either of us want to admit.. when we fuck, we get off to the possibility of getting her pregnant. And how cheating with each other is so filthy. We thrive on this. Only my gorgeous sister can give me those kinds of hand jobs which go on forever, torturing my throbbing cock until any sudden stroke causes me to release all over those beautiful hands of hers.. and she just glares into my eyes as she licks her fingers..
What we do is wrong, but I just don't know what to do. My heart races when I think of getting my baby sister pregnant and just running away. She seems far less stressed than me, why could that be? Recently I spent a lot of money buying her new clothes and lingerie. She is absolutely stunning.. we want to upload more content once again. But will this ever end?
So again I must confess that I worship my sister's tight little pussy. And that she is the perfect girl for me.
Any advice for me, /adv/? Thanks.
NEET and Shut-in advice thread (Version 18): Holiday Edition 3.0
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It's almost 2014 NEETfriends, What's your new year's resolution? Are you going to set any goals for yourself? Is there anything you want to achieve in the new year? At the very least I hope happiness finds you all in 2014. :)
Please don't forget that our IRC channel #NEETadv on the Rizon network is always open. We're here to help, listen, and maybe even have a laugh or two with you. So drop in and say hi some time.
I'd love to hear how other people deal with life, and how we ended up where we are. Suggestions? Advice? Make some friends?
Thanks to the Anon with the list of tips, I'm planning to add it to the Google Doc ASAP. Thanks to OntarioGuy for suggesting Screengrab extension for Firefox for the old threads.
Thanks also to the anon who suggested the Google Doc for links, and the anons keeping an eye on it.
In relation to above, I'm getting together some links to resources for some common diagnoses like Social Phobia and Avoidant Personality Disorder, if anyone would like to contribute any links. (Note: these are for information purposes only)
Carrying over from the old threads:
>Some conversation starters:
- What other boards do you browse?
- Hobbies and interests? Collections?
- Diagnoses both physical and psychological?
- Daily schedule? Sleep schedule/habits?
- Try the MMPI! Google: "Found an online version of the MMPI" Try the top result from another website we won't mention.
>Our Ongoing Google Doc!
>Steam Group! We has one! Come Join!
>The IRC Channel
On the Rizon Network, channel: #NEETadv
If you're really nervous about joining the channel, send me a /msg or /query on IRC, I go by cpucake_13. My recommended IRC client is mIRC as the link above can be unstable.
Life and death and college.
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So, my mom just bailed me out by paying for my final semester of college, which I'm grateful for, but the circumstances in my family are such that I'd rather just take out a bank loan to pay off my mom. Since she agreed to pay for my final semester she's had me resign from my extracurriculars, most of which I'd already paid for, and apply for jobs with a bunch of companies I have no interest in and are not in my field. She's also made it clear that when I graduate I should take the highest paying job regardless of whether I'm working for Microsoft, the government, or the mexican drug cartels, and regardless of whether I'm seeing someone or already have living arrangements.
Thing is, I've always felt this "desperation" ever since I was a little kid, that I don't fully understand. My parents were helicopter parents to the extreme, to the point where since I was about 8 I've known that I'd most likely die by suicide because it'd be the only thing in my life I'd have control over. Now, 15 years later, I'm still of the mindset that my death will be the only part of my life I'll ever be in complete control of and that when I die I'll stop hurting.
When I was 20 I lived on my own with a girlfriend and worked at a kfc and it was kind of hellish but it was also kind of awesome because living was like dying; I could do it on my own terms. We broke up eventually, I couldn't support myself and had to move back in with my parents, and ever since then I've been hearing stories about "this is what happens when you go off on your own and try to live like human trash".
I've been kind of seeing a girl and I'd rather spend more time with her than go off and work in Silicon Valley. And that sounds really stupid but what I really want is the ability to make my own choices, even if they're the wrong ones. I tell my folks I can do it myself, they say "no, you can't, you'll do it wrong, it's better if we do it for you".